Stories from the Branches

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  • AARON: as told by Toby Baim and Ed Tessler
    Tessler Twins

    “It’s twins for the Tesslers” was written on a banner in Macy’s Herald Square, we were told, to announce our birth to our Aunt Martha who was on a break when the call came. Laura and Aaron Tessler had a complete family in one shot - a daughter, Toby Tessler, named for Aaron’s beloved mother, and a son, Edward Tessler, who had the important task of carrying on the family name.

    When we were born, our father believed he had hit the jackpot. He got a boy and a girl on his first try! The Tessler name would be carried on! For a man with 8 older sisters, he had figured his chances of having a boy on the first try were pretty slim. He was relieved of a lot of pressure.

    It was actually the two of us who hit the jackpot. We had great parents, who gave us everything they could. We often wonder where they got the role model for the family life that they gave us, since neither one of them grew up in a typical, traditional family. How did Laura, whose mother was widowed when she was a young child, and Aaron, who really never grew up with a father, learn to be such loving and caring parents? They must have gotten a lot of love and support from their families, and for that we are eternally grateful.

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    Aaron (Pop)

    Aaron Tessler was born on January 3, 1913 in Zitomer, Russia. He was the youngest of nine children and the only boy. His older sisters were Fania, Anna, Minnie, Lily, Mucie, Emma, Bella, and Bea. We don’t know much about his days in Russia because our father believed that he became an American when he arrived here and refused to speak Russian or tell any stories about those times. Pop told us he did not like it when his sisters and their friends got together to sing songs from the old country. He left the house and probably went straight to the pool hall. He wanted to blend in with his friends in America, and he did not have any Russian accent.

    His father Abraham and two of his sisters (Anna and Lily) came to America shortly after he was born. They all worked to save enough money to bring over the rest of the family. Aaron and the remaining Tessler family arrived in 1921, when he was 8 years old. Years of hard work and a World War had kept them apart for more than seven years. You can see the Affidavit from our grandfather Abraham Tessler dated December 6, 1920 swearing that he was able to, and would, support and care for the family.

    Pop didn’t share many stories of his escape from Russia, but he did tell one story worth relating. Apparently, when he and his mother and his sisters were leaving Russia and arrived at the border, they learned that the border guard that was on duty was not the same one who had been bribed to let them through. The family had to hide in the high grass overnight until the guard changed and they could cross safely.

    Aaron and his mother
    Pop began school in this country in Public School 61. At age 8, he was placed in the first grade but was promoted a couple of times that same year. He lived with his mother and five of his sisters, and only knew his father for four years before Abraham’s death in 1925. He never spoke much about his father. On the other hand, he often told us about something else that had happened in 1925: Pop was very proud about winning a PSAL (Public School Athletic League) medal in track. He treasured the medal for the rest of his life. We could not imagine our father, who we always knew as short and overweight, winning a medal for running. He would always laugh at our disbelief.

    Pop was Bar Mitzvah-ed, and the number of fountain pens he received changed with each telling. Here’s his Bar Mitzvah photo with his beloved mother.

    When he graduated from public school in January 1928, Pop listed his favorite subject as Bookkeeping – a foreshadowing of his IRS career. Here are entries in his public school autograph book from his mother and three of his sisters.

    aaron autograph book
    aaron autograph book


    Pop graduated from the High School of Commerce on January 29, 1931. He went on to attend City College at night (majoring in accounting) and he worked as an exterminator by day. He always enjoyed taking his nephews to Commerce High and City College football and basketball games.

    Pop was drafted into the Army and served at Fort Dix. As a corporal in the Medical Corps, Pop supervised a squad of women civilians in keeping hospital records for sick and injured soldiers. He said it was worse than combat. He had to do all the work because the women wouldn’t. Pop sent money home to his mother regularly, earned from his Army salary and his skill at shooting craps. Pop was awarded a Good Conduct Medal and the Purple Heart. He won the Purple Heart for the removal of his gall bladder. Pop always believed that he earned that medal because they had mistakenly taken out his appendix beforehand.

    His beloved mother passed away on November 1, 1945. Pop kept the receipt from the funeral home among his papers. We vaguely recall him telling us that he came home on leave to attend the funeral.

    aaron autograph book
    aaron autograph book


    He was discharged from the Army in 1945. Pop was always interested in job security, so while many of his accounting friends went into private practice, he joined the IRS where he worked as an auditor until his retirement in 1975. He found his work interesting and was able to provide a nice life for his family.

    Laura (Mom)

    Laura Lieberburg was born on December 4, 1914 in New York. She was the first child born to Yehuda and Lifsha Lieberburg. Mom had 2 brothers (Sol and Dave) and a sister (Martha). Twins ran on our mother’s side of the family; her brother Dave and sister Martha were twins, and her mother had twin brothers. Years later, when we were born, a controversy arose over whose side of the family ran toward twins. The Tesslers claimed that Aaron was born with a twin who died at birth, but no one has verified this story. We do know that Laura’s mother had twin brothers and gave birth to twins, as did Laura. Mom always said that the “single” girl in the family (not part of a twin) gave birth to the twins. Since we have no sister, this run could be ended.

    Laura was born in Manhattan. Her parents bought a house in the Bronx when she was a small child. Unfortunately they lived there for only a short time since her father passed away in a flu epidemic when she was 9. Mom’s family moved to Brooklyn to be closer to our grandmother’s brother. Our grandmother took in laundry to support her family. Mom graduated P.S. 47 in 1928. She graduated from Thomas Jefferson High School and attended college briefly. She became a bookkeeper to help her mother support the family.

    Aaron and Laura wedding
    Kismet

    This is where the two paths come together. While on an audit for the IRS, Pop met Mom who was the bookkeeper for the company being audited. Pop asked Mom for a date. According to Mom, she was reluctant to go out with him but thought it would hurt her company if she didn’t accept. The rest, as they say, is history. But let us elaborate.

    Aaron and Laura dated for a while. Since Aaron lived in the Bronx, and Laura lived in Brooklyn with her mother and siblings, Pop would sometimes sleep over at Laura’s apartment. One story our father loved to tell was about a time early in their courtship when, after a date, our father went to Mom’s apartment and asked for a cup of coffee. Unfortunately, Mom didn’t know how to make coffee, and she didn’t want Pop to know this. So she woke up her brother Sol to give her the “recipe.” Our mother’s cooking improved after marriage, but not a lot. Pop didn’t seem to mind.

    The Tessler Family

    Laura and Aaron were married on March 7, 1948 at the Saratoga Mansion in Brooklyn. They honeymooned for 3 days in Washington, D.C. at the Hotel Statler. The hotel bill came to $38. They first lived in a hotel in Manhattan with a Murphy bed. They then got an apartment on Ocean Avenue in Brooklyn. When Mom got pregnant, they moved to Flushing for a bigger apartment. According to Pop, his family thought he had moved to the edge of the earth. Later on, however, other members of both of their families also settled in Flushing.

    Now we come into the picture. We were born on October 25, 1949. Our parents had not expected twins and back then, multiple births were not a common occurrence. We were told that our parents got a free second layette, because it was so unusual. Imagine that happening today!

    Twins were a handful. We now have new respect for our mother after we had children of our own and realized how hard it must have been to take care of two babies. Pop always bragged that he never changed a diaper, so our early care was entirely in her hands. Once we got a little older, Pop began to help out. He used to take us out to the park on week-ends to give Mom a little free time.

    Tessler birth announcement
    We’ve heard stories about how, when we were taken to the park, we would each run in opposite directions. The park was the scene for a number of Tessler anecdotes. One day, Ed – against Mom’s direction – went down the slide head first. Unfortunately, he hit the ground head first too. Pop insisted that Ed go right back up the slide and do it right – Pop believed in getting right back on that horse!

    A twin boy and girl also posed the problem of fairness for our parents. They handled it wonderfully. Our parents believed in treating us equally. If Ed got a present, Toby got a present. Although the presents couldn’t be the same, they seemed equal to us.

    Although they treated us equally, they did have very strong ideas about what was appropriate for boys and for girls. Ed could take the subway to attend Stuyvesant High School. Toby, a girl, could not. Ed was Bar Mitzvah-ed, but as was the custom at the time, Toby was not Bat Mitzvah-ed. However, Pop and Mom gave Toby a catered Sweet Sixteen party at a lovely hotel. Similarly, Pop wanted Ed to go away to college, but they wanted Toby to go to college locally so she could live at home. Ed went to Union College in Schenectady, and Toby went to Queens College. But Mom and Pop gave Toby a chaperoned tour of Europe after graduation to equalize the situation.

    We were in the same class every year except first grade, until we went to separate high schools. We were both sent to Hebrew school. Pop always felt that his religious education was lacking and he wanted his children to have more. Education was always important, and they began saving for our college education from the moment we were born. We always felt that our parents gave us everything that they possibly could.

    tessler family
    In summers, we went to Spring Valley. We fondly remember the aunts and uncles coming to visit and picnicking on the tables near our house. We also remember cousins Gale and Valerie coming to stay with us in Spring Valley after they emigrated from Russia.

    At Christmastime, our family went to Atlantic City (before gambling) with Sid and Lottie Kaplan and their family. We enjoyed the time there even when Toby broke her wrist ice-skating.

    One particular Christmas vacation, Mom and Lottie were walking on the boardwalk and happened into a high-pressure auction house. When Lottie was asked, “Would you pay $200 for this ring?” she said “Yes” and the auctioneer said “Sold!” Laura and Lottie tried to keep this a secret from their husbands, but the kids gave them up. Don’t worry, all ended well. Remember, Pop worked for the IRS, and so did Sid. The two men went to the auction house and showed their IRS credentials, and the auctioneer was only too happy to refund the entire amount.

    Pop was an avid sports fan. Even before he was married, Pop would take his nephews to baseball and basketball games. After marriage, his passion continued. We remember how upset he was when the New York Giants moved to San Francisco, and how happy he was when the National League came back to New York with the Mets. Pop would listen to one game on the radio while watching another game on television while reading about yesterday’s games in the newspaper. Mom accepted her role as a football, baseball, and basketball widow with grace. Pop encouraged Ed to play sports and went to his games. When Ed played high school football for Stuyvesant, Pop was often the only adult in the locker room other than the coaches. We still don’t know how he got in there.

    While raising us, Pop and Mom still had time for other interests. In addition to sports, Pop had his weekly pinochle game and still found time to help relatives get jobs. They were actively involved in the PTA, the Flushing Boys Club, the Cub Scouts, and Brownies. Mom was a proud life member of Hadassah and was selected for the Hadassah “Woman of Valor” Album in 1975. She worked hard soliciting goods for their bazaars and she was very proud of Pop for his help in these endeavors. Mom was following the lead of her mother who was an ardent Zionist. They would even hum a lullaby to us to the tune of Hatikvah.

    After Pop retired, for several years they spent the winters in Florida and the rest of the year back in Flushing . Eventually, they moved to Florida permanently, settling in Coral Springs.

    baim family

    The Next Generation

    Toby married Marvin Baim on April 4, 1971. Mom and Pop gave them a beautiful wedding. When Toby got married, our folks went on their first vacation alone. We were thrilled to see them go on a cruise and then a trip to Israel. The Israel trip was our gift to them for their 25th anniversary. We started saving money for this trip when we were about 12 years old. Each week Ed, the banker, would put in $2 from his allowance and $2 from Toby’s allowance. Pop probably raised our allowance so that we could afford to do this. Then, every summer, each twin was responsible for putting $100 into the bank account. This was relatively easy for Ed, who worked as a caddy and made good money. It was not so easy for Toby, who worked as a counselor and made $50 for the whole summer. On the last day of camp, Ed would be waiting for her to come home, and would whisk that salary plus any tips right out of her hands We remember a few good arguments and lot of laughs over this. We were very proud to be able to give something special to our special parents; and they had a wonderful time.

    They were thrilled to become grand-parents when Lisa was born in 1974, followed by Matt in 1977. They came to all of the Grandparents’ Days at their elementary school, and also saw dance recitals, tennis matches, Little League, and soccer games. They gave Toby and Marvin the old piano that Toby had taken lessons on and were a lot more understanding when Lisa wouldn’t practice than they were when Toby wouldn’t. Lisa and Matt have already graduated college (Tufts and Indiana University) and they both have apartments in New York City. Toby and Marv live in East Northport, NY although each year they manage to spend more and more time at their condo in Boca West, FL.

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    Ed was a late bloomer. He married Bonnie Schindel on July 4, 1988. Mom and Pop welcomed Bonnie into the family as if she were their own daughter. This was an opportunity for Ed to have a son to carry on the Tessler name. Pop was very nice about it, but he made it clear that he wanted a grandson, and soon Danny was born in 1990, and the celebration began. Unfortunately, Mom died in 1993, and never got to meet Nathan who was born later that year.

    Sadly, Pop passed away in 1996 and did not get to see the boys grow up, but he did hold Nathan at his bris. We especially missed them at Danny’s Bar Mitzvah which was just two months ago. The Tessler family lives in South Orange, NJ. Ed, Bonnie, Danny, and Nathan are the only members of the Tessler Family Circle who are actually named Tessler – for which they are quite proud. Ed has already made it clear to Danny and Nathan that they are expected (MUCH later) to have many sons (or daughters) to carry on the family name.
  • ANNA: as told by Norma Friedman

    As the eldest of the second generation of the Tessler Family Circle, I enjoyed many privileges, as each of my aunts was involved in giving me my first experience in many areas:

    The first wedding I attended was that of aunt Mucie to uncle Joe.

    The first Chinese food I ate was presented to me by my aunt Emma, "M" as we called her. Aunt Bea and aunt Emma introduced me to my first opera ("Faust") at Lewisohn Stadium on a very lovely summer evening.

    Aunt Bella worried about me when I worked the night shift at the Brooklyn Navy Yard until 1:00 A.M. . She invited me to sleep at her Brooklyn residence so that I would avoid traveling home to the Bronx by train at that late hour.

    Aunt Minnie gave me an appreciation of classical music and ballet as we listened to opera on the radio many Saturdays.

    And my aunt Lilly took care of me when my mother gave birth to my sister Shirley. She also was of help to me at several critical times in my life.

    My uncle Aaron, not that much older than myself, was the older brother I did not have. He often treated me in much the same way as an older brother might treat a younger sister, which was not always good! But I do have fond memories of the many good times we had together. I recall his great sense of humor...humor that often included subtle insults that kept me "on my toes."

    Being the firstborn of the second generation also added to my responsibilities...for one thing, it made me the chief baby sitter for all my younger cousins! Not only was I in charge of them but I was held solely responsible for anything that might go wrong...avoidable or not. If they were in my care when it happened, it was my fault! Two such incidents come to mind:

    When aunt Minnie needed furniture, it became a family project. My aunts got together for the shopping spree. Norma was unanimously elected to baby sit with their children: George, Marty, Joe (nee Izzy,) and Eddie. When my energetic boy cousins began to "Horse around," it did not take long to break the bedroom window in my house. Who do you think was blamed? Oh, boy, did I catch it!

    Another ritual I performed with my cousins was that of taking them to the movies on Saturdays before 1:00 P.M. ...before the 10 cent price of admission changed. We enjoyed 5 hours of movies; the main feature, news reports in a movie, cartoons, episodes, etc. On one occasion, during the time we were in the theater, the weather changed. A strong wind developed. By the time we got home aunt Minnie was furious because her little boy had been exposed to such inclement weather, and would certainly catch a cold! And, of course you know, there was never any doubt in her mind that it was my fault.

    With all these thoughts of times past, I can not fail to mention the biggest influence in my life...my mother, Anna. As with each of the Tessler sisters, she was in control of her family's life. And, with more than her share of problems she managed (as Arthur said in his contribution to the Golden Book,) to get 26 hours of work into a 24 hour day to take care of them. Boarders in the house when times were bad, travels thruout the country to seek help for Shirley's health problems, helping the sisters and their families with their problems, taking in cousins to stay with her when situations required it - all of these in addition to running a normal household contributed to her life's burdens.

    For her relaxation mother had several sources: She enjoyed going to the movies -and had sets of dishes given one at a time for each movie seen. Her soap operas were generally a pleasant part of her life...except when bad things were happening to the heroine. But the weekly get-togethers with her sisters, usually at our house, was the crowning event of each sister's weekend as all the best gossip and more important items were discussed at length.

    With all the turmoil of her busy life, I knew that there was always time for me, whether it was advice of just “cheering up” that I wanted. Although she seldom took time to show me affection or throw accolades my way, casually, she was quick to detect a change in my mood. At such times she was able to quickly give me a pleasant thought, something to look forward to, something that would brighten my thoughts, and get me out of the bad mood. How well she knew me!

    I shall always remember the joy I felt, when, after my graduation from Hunter College, she and my father greeted me with a beautiful corsage of roses. She surely knew how to show her love in her own inimitable way!

  • ANNA: as told by Arthur Friedman

    I think that it was with the Tessler Family Circle in mind that the first president of the TFC, Label Kaplan, made the admittedly greatest investment of his life. Of course, he also had his daughter's future in mind as well, when he invested in Norma’s vacation at the Nevele Hotel in 1946. At any rate, for many years to follow, he chose to forget my name, and referred to me, instead, as "My Investment."

    And so it was that Norma and I met at the Nevele Hotel on this, her first "Solo" vacation. And so, too, did it follow, that by our subsequent marriage I qualified to join Anna, Label, Shirley, Eddie, and Norma, in the "Kaplan Klan" of the TFC.

    In Eddie's introduction to The Golden Book he tells of the many trials and tribulations in the early years of the Circle. I joined the Tesslers at a time when things were already improving: Economically, things were better. World War II was over, and the military gave back our soldiers. The Kaplans had had some tough years, but things were looking up.

    And so it was that I came into the circle as a stranger but I soon found myself at home there—at home enough to take part in their activities and even to help publish our monthly newsletter. And the rest is history!

    And it is this history, as it relates to the Kaplans and Friedmans in these years that I will try to relate to you in the words that follow:

    Anna Tessler was second in the line of "The Tessler Girls." She joined Lily and came along with their father, Abraham, as the first contingent to arrive in America. (The year was 1913—just 90 years ago, as I write this to-day.) It would be their job,according to plan, to get settled here and arrange, as soon as possible, to bring the rest of the family over the ocean to join them. And, to this end, they directed their efforts immediately. And, as Eddie reports in his introduction, it was eight years later—1921—before the rest of the family, (sister Fannia and her family, excluded,) managed to get to America. It had been a long, hard struggle for all involved— but the happy reunion made it all worth while!

    Of course, this was all before my time with the Tesslers. However, even in my day I knew Anna to be able to accomplish 26 hours of production in a 24 hour day. I suspect that figure may have been 28 in her youth!

    And so, it is not surprising that while all that effort was being directed toward getting the family over, Anna was able to have a social life as well. In fact, by the time her sisters joined her here, she was already married to Label, and Norma had been born in 1920. It's not hard to imagine how this toddler impressed the new arrivals—but it is hard to imagine how this little one survived the barrage of hugs and pinches to which she was subjected.

    In the years that followed, Eddie was born in 1924 and Shirley came along in 1929. This completed the family—a family that epitomized mutual respect, co-operation, and certainly a great love for each other. How else could some of the incidents that follow be explained?

    Since education was, and still is, one of the prime aspirations in the life of the Friedmans and the Kaplans,it is fitting and proper that the events to be described here have some relevance thereto:

    When Eddie, in high school, was having difficulty with an algebra assignment, he knew he could call on Norma, the future accountant, to give him some help, and she did. She actually spent a few hours on a thorough lesson. (Does it really take anything away from this "good deed", the fact that he had to wash three pair of her nylon hose to repay her?)

    When Shirley needed some help with a composition that was due the next day, Norma, just home from work on the midnight shift at the Navy Yard, found a note on her pillow, so indicating. Norma certainly would not say no, and did it for her immediately. (Of course, a few well chosen cuss words may have been given orally, but did not appear in the composition.)

    (Of course, the parenthetical remarks above are meant to show that the family is indeed made up of human beings, not angels!)

    But really, the concern, one for the other, has not often been duplicated in a family. And so, as a real close family they took the good and the bad that life had to offer!

    Of the bad, four major elements stand out in the family history: Number one, of course was the affliction that was Shirley’s as she went thru life stricken with cerebral palsy. Needless to say, it was a family problem. And to Anna no effort was too great, as she traveled wherever she thought there could be some help: Mayo Clinic, Johns Hopkins,--and more. No help there. -- But, Shirley herself was able to change her life from an unproductive one to a reasonably happy one by taking and passing a civil service exam that made her a messenger at the Queens General Hospital for over thirty years.

    Second, comes the depression years that made money scarce. Again, as a family unit, a struggle, including the submission to the woes of catering to boarders who made life miserable but helped pay the bills.

    Third came the incident in the early thirties, where, struck by a taxicab, Label was severely injured and remained between life and death for some time but managed to recuperate.

    Fourth was the early death of Eddie (just three months after Anna died). He had become a pharmacist, and after further study became a copy writer in the pharmaceutical advertising field with much success.

    But on the other side of the ledger, we must record some of our blessings:

    Norma and Arthur have three children who have inherited the love of education. Each of them has earned a doctor’s degree. (Two have married doctors—and one, a nurse.) The following generation, now numbering seven, shows signs of following the same path—appreciating education! We hope it continues.

    As we look forward to the celebration of the 60th anniversary of the founding of the Tessler Family Circle we anticipate that we'll find this and other family reports finding their way into a more complete volume of our Golden Book.

  • BELLA: as told by Marvin Wasserman

    My Mother and Dad, known affectionately to their nephews and nieces as Aunt Bella and Uncle Abe, were the only family members who lived in a far-off place called Brooklyn while I was growing up. They married just a few months after the stock market crash of October, 1929.

    I was the only one of the first generation of cousins born in Brooklyn. Even my brother, Lenny, was born in the Bronx.

    My parents had a poultry business in Brooklyn. While very hard work, they somehow managed with good and loyal help and with the occasional assist of family members, especially during the holiday season and on a couple of days during the week.

    My Dad regularly bought freshly slaughtered chickens and turkeys from the poultry market in the very early hours of the morning, hauling them in sacks in his car to his store to be prepared for sale.

    There was then a chicken pluckers' union whose rather rigid requirements had to be met. The eventual availability and acquisition of automatic plucking machines significantly alleviated a host of problems.

    Working during the hot summer months and in an open and busy store during the cold winter weather was especially difficult but it paid the bills, helping with college expenses for my brother and myself. A scholarship and later a Teaching Fellowship in graduate school were no small factors in helping me with my own education.

    In addition, we both worked part-time in local pharmacies where we fulfilled pharmacy apprentice requirements, and made home deliveries on our bicycles for our parents' poultry business.

    My brother and I both attended Brooklyn College of Pharmacy (currently known as Arnold and Marie Schwartz College of Pharmacy and Health Sciences) of Long Island University. I later attended graduate school at Columbia University majoring in industrial pharmaceutical manufacturing with a minor in biopharmaceutics which prepared me for a career in industry.

    Family members were invariably there for one another. As a youngster, I have fond memories of spending a summer or so in the Catskills with many of my cousins.

    While growing up, my mother became seriously ill with double pneumonia before penicillin became widely available. Her illness required extended convalescence in New Jersey. During this time, I stayed at my Aunt Anna's and Uncle Labiel's home in the Bronx on Belmont Avenue where I also was transferred to a local Bronx elementary school for several months.

    It was here that I developed a close loving relationship with Aunt Anna's family which continues to this day. She was a second mother to me during this stressful period. Despite her own hardships, she always had time and concern for her nieces and nephews. How she managed this still puzzles me.

    I visited the Kaplans and Friedmans during summers in Seagate in Coney Island. In fact, when they traditionally drove to our home in Brooklyn from Seagate to visit at the end of August, this truly signaled to us the official end of summer.

    Lenny at the time stayed with Aunt Mucie and Uncle Joe at their home on Mapes Avenue in the Bronx where he developed a close bond with the family.

    We have a vivid and lasting memory of Uncle Joe. Here was a very kind man who adored children and played with them in his inimitable kidding fashion. Each summer he visited with us in Brooklyn for dinner when his own family was away at the seashore. He unfailingly brought my brother and I large Hershey chocolate bars. While we enjoyed the confectionary treat, more importantly, it signified his fondness and awareness of the younger members of the family.

    Similarly, Uncle Aaron made occasional trips to Brooklyn to visit with us. He had a very close and loving relationship with his sisters' children.

    Upon my brother completing College, he fulfilled his military obligation serving in Nuremberg, Germany after basic training. Upon release from service, he met and married a New Jersey girl. He practiced his profession in his own business for 35 years and raised three children (Keith, Roy and Pamela). He became a highly contributory member of his community serving in various capacities, including Chief Pharmacist.

    Going from Brooklyn to the Bronx by car was always an exciting adventure, traveling on the earliest roadways or expressways which Robert Moses had a significant hand in developing. Getting together with my cousins was a delightful experience and helped keep us close despite age differences and the distance factor.

    My brother and I enjoyed my cousin Irwin's traditional stay with us during the holiday season when we were off from school.

    It was quite unusual and indeed impressive how even cousins marrying into the family such as Harold Rothstein, Arthur Friedman, Murray Scheiner and others assimilated so easily and contributed so much, indistinguishable from blood relatives or original family members,

    The very fact that we are here today celebrating the 60th Anniversary since the founding of the Tessler Family circle in 1943 is testament to the close family ties. Although the founders are sadly no longer with us, hopefully the example they set and the legacy they left will continue.

    I am providing these comments and recollections in deference to and in memory of Uncle Joe and Aunt Mucie who contributed the family Golden Book and to cousin Eddie Kaplan who so ably prepared a memorable introduction for the Circle's Golden Book a number of years ago.

    In closing, Marty Refkin's presidency (no small responsibility for over twenty years) should certainly be acknowledged and extolled as having much to do with the perpetuation of a unique family unit, the Tessler Family Circle. Thanks so much, Marty, for the years of service (or Martin as your mother used to call you).

    Marvin Wasserman November 2003

  • BELLA: as told by Lenny Wasserman *NEW*

    Things I remember

    In a high chair in the kitchen on Floyd Street.

    Hearing the junkman’s cow bell ring from his horse drawn wagon

    Pooping in my pants in 1st grade at P.S. 26

    Not pooping in my pants at P.S. 57

    The principal at P.S. 57 was Miss Head. Her dress was black and ankle length

    Hearing about the bombing of Pearl Harbor on the radio

    Waiting for the bombs to fall on my school while I was under the desk

    Going to P.S. 25 when P.S. 57 closed

    My Mom walking home from Dekalb Avenue carrying groceries in both arms

    My Dad’s chicken store was on Dekalb Ave.

    My Mom and Dad working in the unheated store with the doors wide open in the winter.

    The chickens were dead but still with feathers and guts.

    The chicken store smelled awful

    Mom and Dad taking off their chicken-lice infested clothes in the foyer.

    My Dad soaking in the hot bathtub Friday, in the late afternoon

    He would fall asleep in the tub while I gave an account of my week.

    The whole of WWII.

    Every guy over age 18 was in the armed forces. Some didn’t come home.

    Living with my grandmother for 3 weeks when my Mom was in the hospital.

    Probably the worst 3 weeks of my young life.

    My Dad losing his business and getting a job, working at the Brooklyn Navy Yard

    My Mom always worried about something

    Poor Mom, never really enjoying ……………..

    Rationing, food and gasoline. No new cars for four years

    I was 11 years old and I took the subway (2 trains) to the Bronx by myself

    All the relatives lived in the Bronx

    The war happened between my 9th to 13th birthdays.

    Uncle Aaron and all my male cousins were drafted.

    Radio was just as exciting as TV is now

    Radio had Captain Midnight, The Lone Ranger (and Tonto), Jack Benny,

    Fred Allen, The Shadow and 15 minute “soaps” every morning and afternoon.

    Hershey Syrup was rationed and I couldn’t drink my milk without it.

    Many summers in the Catskills (2 weeks at a time)

    Greisberg’s was our main Catskill destination. It was near White Lake.

    Almost all of the Tantas and cousins vacationed at Greisberg’s. The Uncles came up on Friday evening and left on Sunday afternoon

    Each family had a room. There was a common kitchen from in which the Tantas cooked for their families.

    Showers were located on a hill about 200 feet away from the bungalows.

    I was among the male cousins who peeked through the cracks of the wooden showers shack while the other gender showered.

    Greisberg’s was fun

    My Mom became a U.S. citizen in 1940

    My mom had 7 sisters and one brother

    My dad had one brother (never met him) and a sister named Ada

    We knew that it was perilous to be a Jew in Europe.

    Some of my uncles still had family in Europe. When the war finally ended there were almost no survivors among my Uncle’s families.

    By some great miracle my aunt Fannie (Mom’s oldest sister) did survive along with her daughter and two grandchildren

    They came to the U.S. in 1959

    The war ends and I become a Bar Mitzvah.

    June 1945, I get a job. Working for Joe Horowitz. My first pharmacy job.

    June 1945, I graduate from P.S. 25 and go to Boys High in September

    I think my dad’s brother may have been a bootlegger in Detroit, I’ll never know

    My job paid twenty five cents an hour and all the ice cream I could eat

    Loved working.

    I always had some money in my pocket.

    Mom and Dad were not happy with my fiscal independence.

    I opened a bank account. I was 14

    When I closed the account 10 years later the signatures didn’t match.

    The job came with a bike. The bike was stolen . I should have chained it when I used it.

    My boss bought a new bike and I had to pay for it, a dollar a week for 39 weeks.

    That bike was among my best experiences. I rode it all over Brooklyn.

    Even rode to the Bronx one summer. I was too tired to ride back. Dad came and picked me up.

    I followed the route that he did when he drove to the Bronx.

    After the war (WWII), Dad went back in business. He bought a huge 1932 Packard with a rumble seat.

    It had 10 cylinders and smelled like dead chickens after a few weeks of hauling dead chickens.

    Marvin and I had to sit in the rumble seat (in all weather conditions). Only room for 2 inside the car.

    We froze in the winter.

    Thankfully, it broke down and was too expensive to repair.

    In 1940, we move from 346 Floyd Street to 412 Pulaski St. I was 8 years old

    The move left Herby and Larry behind and I met Jerry and Gibby.

    Jerry’s folks owned Gilman’s candy store (included newspapers and comic books).

    Gibby lived in a fourth floor walk up with a common toilet in the hallway.

    We moved from a one bedroom to a two bedroom apartment.

    I shared a room with Marvin.

    I read in bed before going to sleep, he couldn’t stand the light.

    School was not my favorite place but the public library was.

    On hot days the public library was the only place that was air conditioned

    Sitting among the book stacks, reading about submarines. A whole summer of submarines.

    Preparing for my bar mitzvah.

    My bar mitzvah teacher was an ageless man with a short, tobacco stained beard.

    He lived with his frail, little wife who served him endless glasses of tea while we labored over my Haftorah. Twice a week for what seemed forever, I repeated my haftorah portion

    Finally, May 12, 1945, I became a bar mitzvah in a little shul on Hart St.

    The Tantas, and Uncles and Cousins subwayed down from the Bronx en-masse.

    Mom and Dad and Marvin and I travelled to Bronx every other week

    The Bronx relatives rarely came to Brooklyn.

    We did not belong to a synagogue. Dad was never a bar mitzvah and my Mom and her siblings' early life was too full of tumult, war and chaos for religion.

    Religion aside, mine was a very Jewish environment. Relatives and friends and most neighbors were Jewish.

    On the other hand, I was also surrounded by non-jews and non-whites. School was always an interfaith-interracial experience.

    It was not always harmonious. Jew and non-jew fought and white vs black gangs prevailed

    That was Bedford-Stuyvesant as I was growing up

    Ironically, when the first Jews landed in N.Y. in 1654, Peter Stuyvesant tried to make their lives miserable,

    All my friends, even the non-Jewish ones had parents who spoke in heavily accented English.

    No one of my Bronx relatives had a car.

    My uncle Aaron was an exterminator until he was drafted.

    He used the GI bill to become an accountant and got a job with the I.R.S.

    On hot days in the summer, we played cards in the alley between my building and the next. It was always shaded. We usually played blackjack with airplane cards used as currency

    My grandmother (Baba) was an old, small woman who seemed to have been born that way except that I have seen her wedding photo. She was a cute, baby -faced bride.

    Trolley cars disappeared and buses and diesel smoke appeared.

    We had a refrigerator but many homes still used ice-boxes.

    Where did the ice come from?

    From Deep in a cellar in the building that housed the local tavern. A burly Italian man, using huge iron tongs hauled up 4-foot long blocks of ice and placed them on a wheel barrow-like wagon.

    From the block of ice on the wagon, using an ice pick he broke the ice block into smaller blocks , put the smaller block on his burlap covered shoulder and carried it up many flights of stairs to a family icebox for 25 cents.

    Airplane cards. During WWII a new brand of smokes appeared. Attached to each pack was a card depicting a different combat plane. The cards had the same value as baseball cards. They were traded, fought over and are probably among the treasures of the men who were boys in the early 1940s

    Scrap books full of newspaper photos of the war. Maps on my bedroom wall (my side of the room).

    Our clothes came from the Brooklyn Navy Yard. Any article of clothing that became orphaned became the dungerees, denim shirts and Pea coats in our wardrobe.

    Hand me downs from my older cousins didn’t work too well. It seems that Marvin and I were just built wrong.

    Dad was escorted home by a marine from the navy yard. He suffered from a welding flashburn to his eyes. He was ok in 2-3 days.

    Gibby was Gilbert Hochberg. He was blind in one eye, the frames of his glasses were always scotchtaped where they had broken. One of his front top teeth was cracked. I’m partially responsible for the cracked tooth. We were both chasing an ice wagon for a free piece of ice, he slipped and fell on his face. I also slipped but was much less damaged.

    Jerry was Jerome Gilman. His dad owned the candy store around the corner. Jerry always seemed to have a protruding belly, probably accented by a sunken chest.

    Jerry & Gibby were a year older than me.

    During the war, windows were adorned with small banners which contained blue stars. The stars represented sons and husbands and some fathers who were in the armed forces. From time to tim the banner contained a gold star. The gold star represented someone killed in action.

    I now understand the great anxiety that filled the lives of almost every household.

    There were 13 million men and women in the armed forces between 1941and 1945.

    440,000 of them never came home.

    Windows had to have blackout shades, car headlights were painted black on the top half of the lens.

    When Pearl Harbor was bombed most people didn’t know where Pearl Harbor was located. Toward the end of the war a B25 bomber crashed into the Empire State Building. I could see the smoke from the roof of my building.

    We had air raid wardens, air raid drills, and air raid shelters. No air raids.

    Harry Lum (real name – Soo Hoo Jek) operated a laundry in one of the stores located on the ground floor of my building. He washed and starched shirts in his basement and spent all day, six days a week ironing those shirts. On Sunday, he dressed in shirt and tie and with a package usually tucked under one arm went off to Manhattans’s Chinatown.

    Next to Harry Lum’s Laundry was a hair salon whose owner I never knew nor did I ever walk through its door.

    Across from my home was Beth Moses Hospital. From about age 14 on, I would spend Saturday evenings in the hospital emergency room.

    Horowitz’s Pharmacy was my home away from home for almost 4 years. Those 4 years shaped the rest of my life.

    It reminds me of the the TV show ER. The pharmacy had a 16 stool lunch counter and most of customers were the doctors and nurses from the hospital.

    The dispensing pharmacy was located in the rear of the establishment and had its array of chemical containers and pharmaceutical jars. The lab counter held an apothecary scale and various spatulas, beakers, graduates, molds and dispensing containers. This area was glass enclosed while on the other side of the enclosure, food was prepared for the lunch counter.

    Our apartment was located on the first floor of a small apartment building. The building was diagonally across from the pharmacy.

    At 2 A.M. a car crashed into the front window of the pharmacy. I heard the crash, looked out the window, and raced to my home away from home. Any delay on my part and the place would have been looted. It was just after my 15th birthday.

    In addition to my boss, Joe Horowitz, there was another pharmacist, he was Julius Schwartz. He was a smallish, bald man with a mustache who complained about almost everything.

    I usually worked Saturday until noon and after checking in with my mom went to the movie. Of course I had to take Marvin. Since most of my friends didn’t work, I selected one of them each week to come along.

    It’s difficult to express the feeling of being 14 years old and having a couple of dollars in your pocket in 1946.

    I never went to school with more that 25 or 30 cents. There were too many guys willing to separate you from your money.

    There was a baseball game in the P.S. 25 school yard after school. I came with my baseball glove but was never picked for a team. So much for athletics.

    Mrs. Scheiner in 5th grade is imbedded in my memory. She was so very kind to me when my mom was recovering from her second surgery. She must have recognized how disrupted my life was at that time.

    Building model airplanes. Ten cents purchased an airplane kit. With a tube of glue, a single edge razor blade and colored tissue paper I assembled a 10-12 inch fighter plane.

    For me, athletics were replaced with reading, model building, sketching and later on, writing.

    My uncles were an interesting group. They were the men married to my mom’s sisters. Most of them were born in what was then Russia (including The Ukraine, Moldova and Georgia). My uncles emigrated to the U.S. as young men, leaving parents and siblings behind. Probably the most prominent reason they left home was to avoid being conscripted into the czar’s army.

    The uncles all had some education and while all were Jewish, they were not religious.

    My uncle Aaron was mom’s youngest sibling and the only male among 8 sisters.

    The telephone. We didn’t have one until several years after WWII.

    Most people used public telephones located in various local businesses. One way to make some money, was to hang around telephone booths. When the phone rang and you answered, there was usually a request to summon someone who lived nearby. I would hustle, ring a bell or knock on a door and wait for the person to come to the booth and tip me a nickel or a dime.

    The pharmacy had seven telephone booths and evenings could provide 50 to 75 cents in tips.

    The store owner received 50% of the tolls deposited by callers. Seven booths probably paid the store's monthly rent.

    Alone with my dad.

    I was about 10 years old when my dad took me to the lower east side of Manhattan. I may have gone when I was younger, but it’s only from this point on that I can fully recall the experience.

    We arrived on Delancey Street by walking across the Williamsburg Bridge. I stepped into another world and dad was my guide. Orchard Street, Henry Street, Hester Street and street names I have forgotten came off of Delancey like the tines of a fork.

    The streets were lined with 4 story tenements built in the late eighteen hundreds. They housed the hundreds of thousands of immigrants (mostly jewish) who had swarmed ashore between 1890 and 1922. The front of the buildings contained the retail businesses that served the neighborhood. Most of the store signage was in Yiddish and most of the merchants were dressed as they might have been in the shtetls from which they had came. The stores, selling everything from clothing to food represented the more established businesses. Another merchantile layer was represented by the pushcarts that lined the curbs. Theirs was a mobile market for fresh produce and small every day needs.

    This was the world of my dad’s boyhood. Every few yards we would stop while he related an experience that had occurred there. On Henry Street it was the ground level flat that he and his family lived in. When he was a kid, there was a fire in the building and his exit was blocked by the iron bars placed over the windows for security. A team of horses was used to pull the bars from the window to extract my dad. He had inhaled some smoke and had to be hospitalized.

    The streets had an odor of their own. You could clearly smell the variety of foods, some sour and some sweet, intermixed with the aroma of horse shit.

    At one of the corners of Pitt St. my dad paid homage to his mother, the grandmother I can’t remember. Here on the street, in the space she rented from the store owner, my grandmother had several barrels of herring which she sold for one cent each . In summer and freezing winter she would immerse her hands in the barrel to consummate a one cent sale.

    Dad was absorbed with pushcarts that sold used, cheap tools. All his life my dad loved tools.

    We passed barrels of pickles and I was sure to get a new pickle to hold me over until we got back to Delancey for a knish. My dad was not much of an eater but I think he enjoyed watching me eat.

    Somehow, amid a deafening cacophony of sounds, motor vehicles managed to squeeze between the pushcarts as they pursued the more spacious streets.

    The pushcarts are gone now. Many of the building are still there but the sounds now have a Latin flavor and the stores are owned by newer generations of newcomers. Not many pickle barrels left.

    Robinson Crusoe fascinated me.

    I read this book several times, starting when I was 10 or 11. It was written over 200 years before I was born but it resonated with me. I have never quite figured out why.

    The 1939 Worlds Fair was in Queens and we all went. I ate too much cheese at the Kraft cheese display and was sick all that night. I saw my first TV set there. We didn’t own a TV til 1952.

    About my mom.

    My mom emigrated to the U.S. in 1921 at age 13. Her father, my grandfather Abraham Tessler, came to America in 1913 with his 2 oldest daughters. They were my tantas Lilly and Anna. My mother and six of her sisters and infant brother survived the first WW and the Russian revolution. They experienced hunger and disease (they all had typhus). My grandmother Tobia was a single mom with 7 children to care for.

    I learned little about my mothers’s father other than that he died in 1925. It later became evident that he had led a double life. During the time between 1913 and 1921 he met a woman in Harford, Conn and fathered a child with her. While he did eventually bring my grandmother, aunts and my uncle Aaron to the U.S., I imagine he was persona non grata thereafter.

    My dad was an infant when he arrived in the U.S. His mother, my grandmother Rachael, also brought my 3 year old aunt Ada. My grandfather, Morris, was left behind in Russia with my dad’s oldest brother, Joseph. Rachael was not overly fond of her husband. When she could, she brought him to the U.S. in order to be reunited with her son, Joseph. By the time I was born my grandmother was suffering from dementia. I never met either my grandfather or Joe. Ada managed to live under the protection of a well-to-do aunt on the Grand Concourse in the Bronx.

    On my 11th birthday I travelled from my home to the Bronx by myself. My poor mom thought she would never see me again.

    Transportation was almost always a choice.

    There were destinations that were obviously too far to walk. It came down to: should I spend a nickel (later a dime) on a streetcar or bus or should I walk and put the carfare to some other use. If I didn’t have to carry anything heavy, the choice was to certainly, walk.

    I would direct my walk via a street that had store windows to gaze into. The best of these streets was Broadway, Brooklyn, with its El which ran from the Williamsburg Bridge almost to Queens. My part of Broadway was a treasure. It contained used book stalls, a huge stationary store (Rapoports), furniture stores which featured the first TV sets in the neighborhood, several movie theaters, newspaper stands with the latest magazines and comic books (you could slowly browse by and check out the magazine and comic book covers). Most of all, the neighborhood characters who seemed to congregate under the El. They were the Street people, men and women who spoke to themselves. I always wondered where they went in the coldest periods of the winter. There were no trees on Broadway.

    The chubby shop.

    I was a modestly fat kid. We caught the DeKalb Ave. trolley and went to Knickerbocker Ave. to the “chubby kids shop” where my mom would buy me trousers. The store whose name I’ve long forgotten was always full of moms and their fat kids (all boys). I always imagined that they didn’t get chosen for baseball games either. Why only trousers? Well, you could always wear a hand me down shirt after the sleeves were shortened. Sweaters and outer wear handed down from one of my older cousins could almost always be made to fit by down sizing, but not the seat of knickers or long pants.

    Buying my bar mitzvah suit required the services of the family specialists. This involved my dad and mom in addition to at least one of my tantas. For clothing this important, the lower east side was our destination. Tanta Mussie met us on one of those streets where resided store after store of mens and boys clothing. Someone from the store would remain outside and urge shoppers to come into his store “ just to try on”. The cardinal error was to seem in the least interested in any of the offerings. We went into at least 4 or 5 stores, browsed while the owner tried to figure out what our objective was. He offered, wool, gaberdine, with a vest, two pair of trousers, wide lapels, or even a free hat. Finally, when the experts had zeroed in a suit, I had to try it on. At this point the “mavens” determined if there was enough room in the crotch, under arms and how well the jacket looked when it was buttoned. Could I wear it next year? Could Marvin wear it for his bar mitzvah (16 months later).

    Next came the haggling over the price. For special customers like us and because it was for a bar mitzvah he would sacrifice his profit and let us have the suit for $29.00. But they were ready for him and offered $20.00. After much going back and forth and with the suit laying on the counter we turned to leave, when behind us we heard the exasperation in the voice of the store owner as he announced his bottom price, $23.50. My dad paid the $23.50 after reminding the suit seller that a hat was to be thrown into the deal. Did I ever wear that hat?

    Ironically, in the next year I had grown 3 inches, the suit never fit Marvin who was even taller and skinny. But alas, five years later my cousin Irwin wore it to his bar mitzvah.

    The sunflower seed machine at Gilman’s candy store was ground zero. It’s where I could expect to meet the guys. It was the focal point of our social life. All the while, old Mr. Gilman admonished us not to stand near the news papers and to make space for the customers. The very small piece of dirt adjacent to the curb and directly in front of the candy store was our marble court. Those round, multi-colored pieces of glass were our little treasures. They were the currency of the street. We played simple games with them. There, on that dirt arena we did battle with our marbles (Imees) while we gamed with and traded them. I don’t remember ever buying any marbles.

    The newspapers were The Daily News, The Mirror, NY Times, The Journal American and the Herald Tribune. In addition there was The Daily Worker and an assortment of foreign language papers. The Forward was read backward in Yiddish. There were at least 2 Yiddish papers, plus, Italian and Polish weeklies. My dad bought the Hearst owned Journal American. In retrospect, I don’t know why my very liberal father would buy the very conservative Journal. I guess I’ll never know.

    I started to save stamps very early, certainly by age nine. For the 3 weeks that I spent living with my grandmother during my mom’s illness, the only reading material I had was a Scott’s stamp catalogue. Baba didn’t speak or read English and since my uncle Aaron was in the army, there was no english language reading material in her apartment.

    The Scott stamp catalogue was sent free on request and I spent lots of time gathering envelopes from family and family friends and soaking off the stamps. Foreign stamps could be purchased in hobby shops. They came in packets and cost anywhere from 10 cent to 25 cents a pack. If I bought a pack (rarely) I would take out the stamps I didn’t already own and trade the rest with the other stamp collecting kids.

    Stamp collecting eventually led to first day covers. This turned out to be much more satisfying. When the issuance of a new commemorative stamp was announced, I would send an envelope with correct coinage equal to the face value of the stamp, to the site of the stamp's place of issue. I would receive the envelope with the new stamp marked FIRST DAY OF ISSUE. It was exciting to find a new First Day Cover in the mail.

    Gibby’s dad never had a job. Not a real job. He was the neighborhood numbers dealer. Even in this illegal gambling enterprise, he barely made a living. The minimum bet was 25 cents. Some people (men and women) played every day. The winning numbers were the last 3 numbers of that day's paramutual receipts at the racetrack. A dollar bet could bring a player a hundred dollars. I suppose at some point most consistant players won something. Certainly, the numbers operators won.

    Eating out. We almost never did. However, when we did eat out, the choice was Chinese, Kosher deli or Vegetarian. Eating out with my mom’s family in the Bronx almost always defaulted to a vegetarian restaurant on Tremont Ave. As we grew older, me and my cousins rebelled. To quiet the rebellion, one of my older cousins was given enough money to take us to the Chinese eatery down the block. This was the beginning of our eating emancipation.

    Every neighborhood with a sizable jewish population had one or more delis. There was no competition, when the choice was a heaping pastrami sandwich with a side of potato salad and a fresh pickle. The kosher deli became to the neighborhood what the pizza parlor would become a few years down the line.

    While spaghetti was part of the menu in our home, tomato sauce was not. Ketchup was our traditional pasta sauce. Ketchup is still great on eggs.

    My summer in Woodridge N,Y.

    In the summer of 1946: My dad and a not remembered partner pooled their resources and opened a chicken store to serve the summer vacationers in the surrounding bungalow colonies. Financially it was a failure but for me it was an extraordinary experience. For over two months we lived in a small apartment next to the high school in this 8,000 person (during the summer) village. The community was literally divided by railroad tracks that ran down the center of its main street. At one end of the main street was a saloon called the Kentucky Club. On weekendsit provided live entertainment. From a proper vantage point one could see the female entertainers changing into and out of their costumes.

    In Woodridge, I learned to drive a very old Ford pick up truck. Stick shift.

    Even though we had vacationed in the Catskills, 2 weeks at a time, this was real immersion into the jewish farm/small town culture. I saw the “Outlaw” with Jane Russell in Woodridge’s one movie theater. The small high school had a silver painted world war I cannon on its front lawn. Woodridge did not have a public library and the local news stand did not carry the Journal American.

    Marvin and I arrived in Woodridge atop a pile of raw beef covered with canvas inside of a surplus war ambulance. The ride from New York City was 4 hours, non-stop.

    The end of WWII: The war ended in the summer after my bar mitzvah.The boys who left a few years ago came back with little brass pins in their lapels. They were veterans and the pin (the ruptured duck) verified it. The little banners with the blue stars started to disappear. Home telephones became available, new cars were replaced on the assembly lines that had been producing tanks and planes. When I entered college in 1950, about one third of my class were veterans attending on the GI bill. I was 18 and some of my classmates already had teen age children.

    By 1950 we were involved in another war. Korea.

    I was draft deferred until I graduated from college in1954.

    With end of the war in Europe, we learned of the toll the war had on the peoples of Europe, Especially the 6 million Jews who died in the camps and unmarked graves in the woods and fields of eastern europe. Of 7 million jews in pre-war Europe, less than a million survived. It seemed ironic that I and some of my jewish friends would be sent to Germany as U.S. soldiers just 10 years after this holocaust.

    Things sold in Horowitz’s pharmacy. Wets & Drys. The Wets were liquid, over the counter medication, usually filled from gallon containers and dispensed in 2 oz. 4 oz. and 8 oz. glass bottles. They were Browns Mixture, Stokes expectorant, Glycerin, Oil of Wintergreen, Coca Cola Syrup (supposedly for nausea), Syrup of Ipecac, Terpin Hydrate and codeine to name a few. The Drys. were solid, over the counter medications such as bicarbonate of soda, epsom salts, mustard powder (for mustard plasters), Seidlitz powders and stringed rock sugar.

    Sanitary napkins were wrapped in plain brown paper or special gray or brown bags. Condoms were kept in a drawer behind the counter and quickly bagged for the man who requested them. Women did not buy condoms and men seldom purchased sanitary napkins.

    For many neighborhood folks, the pharmacist was the first source of medical advice. Free advice was dispensed by Mr. Horowitz or Julius Schwartz in their starched gray lab jackets. The free consultation was usually accompanied by the sale of a medication to treat the patient-described ailment. On occasion, there was quiet but fir advice that a visit to the doctor was in order. The pharmacist was respectfully called “Doc” .

    As early as I can remember, I knew that I would be a health professional. The college of Pharmacy which I often passed on the way to Boys High was part of my destiny.

    About radio.

    Radio of the 30’s and 40’s was like TV, the entertainment center of the home. In many ways more so. Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 7:30 PM on WOR my dad and I were glued to our 1935 model radio listening to the Lone Ranger. Sunday afternoon, at 2PM on WEVD was Yiddish language time, with my mom sitting intently, listening to Tsuris bie Lieten (peoples troubles). The program was sponsored by The Hospital For Incurable Diseases and my mother sat for 30 minutes crying her eyes out. Sunday was an important radio day. The Shadow and Jack Benny were the evening’s premier shows.

    Radio had the advantage of your being able to listen to the program and do other things as well. Much of my school home work was left for Sat. afternoon. The Metropolitan Opera On The Air played for 3 hours. Complete with Libretto the opera filled the silence of hours of less than enjoyable home work. The newspaper still provided the best source of news. People discussed the previous day's radio offerings in much the same way as TV shows are discussed today.

    Sick days offered the radio soap in 15 minute segements, which ran 5 days per week for an infinite number of weeks. They were called “soaps” because so many of their sponsors were soap companies. Other major sponsors were cereal makers and oddly enough at least one coal company “Blue Coal”. With regard to the “soaps”, you could miss months of episodes and still not lose the plot continuity.

    Beth Moses Hospital was across from my building. Eventually, Gibby became the hospital elevator operator. The elevator was a cage with a fence-like door which was manually closed before the hallway door closed. During quiet periods I convinced Gibby to allow me to opereate the elevator. Great fun.

    The hospital emergency room became my friday and saturday night hang out. I now realize how much I learned on those friday & saturday nights. I was about fifteen, and had been working at the pharmacy for almost 2 years. During that time I got to know the doctors and nurses who worked in the Emergency Room. When my curiosity nudged me to the ER, I was readily accepted as long as I watched, stayed out of the way and kept my mouth shut. I saw a lot of bloody wounds being treated and sutured and the delivery of a baby on a gurney as the mother was being wheeled into the ER. There were stabbings, gun shot wounds along with the effects of drug and alcohol abuse. Years later, in the army, in a battalion aid station I actually became the first responder to many of the same non-combat experiences as those at Beth Moses ER.

    Our home on the first floor of 412 Pulaski Street, was small but comfortable with two bedrooms, one occupied by mom and dad and the other I shared with Marvin. The building housed 16 apartments. Some only had one bedroom. The living room in our apartment contained the usual , well preserved furniture which my folks covered with plastic zip on covers. The living room floor was covered with an oriental-like rug which was rolled up with camphor balls and covered in tar paper for the summer. It was placed in an upright position in one of our 3 closets. Consequently, our clothes required seasonal airing to rid them of the camphor ball odor.

    With space at a premium, the apartment was purged frequently. Old or unused stuff was moved out to make room for newer stuff.

    My room contained two beds, a set of drawers which matched the wood of the beds, a night table and lamp and finally a desk and chair. In order to get to the desk I had to climb over Marvin’s bed. Essentially, the desk and its contents were mine but Marvin controlled access. The desk was a repository of my treasures. It contained notebooks of things I had written while in high school and later during my college years. In addition, it contained some art works I had dabbled in and the various stuff I had chosen as keepsakes. When I came home from the army, my things were all gone.

    During the almost four years that I worked at the pharmacy, I took on more and more responsibility. I don’t remember Joe Horowitz ever saying that I should do more complex tasks. It all evolved. From making deliveries and sweeping the floor, I was making salads in the kitchen section of the store. In a year or so I was bottling and packaging wets and dries. Eventually, I was placing orders for over the counter and toiletry items. During the summers I worked the lunch counter at lunch time. Pharmacy practice required doing many things which would appear archaic today. It was common practice then and for hundreds of prior years to compound medications. Pills were hand rolled, capsules were filled with mixtures of drugs. Most skin ailments were treated with ointments and creams which were prepared by the pharmacist. Individual packets of medicinal powders were mixed. In this era just before antibiotics, various liquids were mixed or drugs dissolved in liquids to treat what ailed you. I was fortunate in that Joe Horowitz and Julie Schwartz allowed me to assist in the dispensing process. Years later, when the rare occasion arose, I was able to hand roll a pill and mold a rectal suppository.

    Among my mother’s sisters there existed a distinct hierarchy. Mom always needed approval from her older sisters. The sisters had established the rules and if you deviated, you were swimming against the current. At sixteen, with my own money, I went alone and purchased a sport jacket. With the sleeves shortened and the buttons moved a bit I presented myself to my folks. I know they liked the jacket but I could see the trouble in my mother’s face. How could I buy something as important as a sport jacket, alone? The Tantas would not approve. Over time, as my adult male cousins married and had their own children, their mothers still went with them when they purchased any important piece of clothing. That’s the way it was. But not for me.

    Boys High School. No girls, no proms, wooden floors in a fortress-like building built in 1891.

    Right through college, I always lived within walking distance of school. For me, graduating H.S. and going to Brooklyn College of Pharmacy was like going from the 12th grade to the 13th grade.

    The principal of Boys High was Alfred A. Tausk. Asst. principal ‘s name was Hansen. They had both been student together at Boys High many years before (class of 1906).

    Going to and from H.S. was a challenge. Some of us would assemble in Thompkins Park, midway between home and school and move in a solid block up Marcy Ave. A lone student walking up Marcy Ave. was an easy mark for small gangs on the prowl for easy prey. Going home was the same in reverse. Interestingly, there was a public library in the one square block that was Thompkins park. The library served as a sanctuary in the Bed-Sty neighborhood.

    Mr. Papke was my 10th grade social studies teacher. He was a 300 pound giant who I grew to dislike more and more as the term went on. When he discussed the second World War, he inferred that we should not have come to the aid of the European nations that Hitler had overrun. At some point I stood and called him a Nazi. He ordered me to the office of the asst. principal, Mr. Hansen. Mr. Hansen asked me to apologize to Mr. Papke. I refused. He had me come back next day with my poor, confused mom. I had related to her what I said to Papke. As far as she could see I was challenging the school’ s authority and I was in big trouble. I tried to explain that Papke did not like Jews and was no better than the Nazis we had heard about. In the end, with a small rebuke Mr. Hansen transferred me to another social studies class.

    About a third of Papke’s class was Jewish. No one challenged him.

    As the holocaust revealed itself, I felt that only the accident of having been born in the U.S. spared me and my family. I was certain that if I had been in Europe between 1939 and 1945 I would not have survived. I probably was right, and I think it has been a defining event in my life. Like the bullet that just missed me.

    The store across from Boys High was a hangout that sold great fruit pies. I almost never missed a day without either a lemon or cherry pie.

    By 1945, Boys High was on split session. For my first year I went to school from noon to 5 PM. I usually got home by 6 PM, ate, and went to work until 9 PM two nights a week . On Saturday, I worked from 9 to 1. It seemed like a normal routine. I reserved Sunday for homework or school reports. didn’t think about it then but I must have taken great pride in the responsibilities I had at the pharmacy. I might have left some school work undone but never my duties at work.

    I’m not sure when I started to collect National Geographic Magazine. I was certainly in my early teens. A subway ride to lower Manhattan around Wall St. took me to streets lined with used book shops, stamp and coin dealers and one shop that specialized in maps. I had a pocket full of coins and usually purchased an old NG magazine. They sold for five cents each. I browsed the collectibles in the various shops. It was like an unfolding show. I spent many enjoyable hours looking and enjoying. The Map store had, under glass, maps drawn hundreds of years ago. One map that fascinated me was of pre-revolutionary America in which much of the land west of the Mississipi was blank.

    During WWII I had maps of the various theaters of operation on my side of the bedroom wall. After D Day I had colored pins that traced the allied advance from Normandy to VE day. The map of the Pacific war theater allowed me to follow the island by island victory over the Japanese. In August of 1945 I took the maps down. The war was over.

    I spent a lot of “alone” time. I also spen a lot of time with my friends. It seems that solitary time was reading time and making things time. Not sharing time.

    We did not have a washing machine or dryer or air conditioner. Mom was the washer and she hung the laundry on a line which ran from a hallway window in our apartment building to a pole in the back yard. The exception was my dad's dress shirts. They went to Harry Lum, the Chinese laundryman. Dad and his shirts went through a ritual. He wore a shirt and tie on our almost weekly trips to the Bronx. He would undo at least 3 shirts from thei laundry packaging and try on each one until he finally made a selection. Choosing a tie followed the same routine. The tie pin selection was a bit less arduous. We were usually all dressed and waiting for dad to make his shirt, tie, and tie pin selections.

    Those were the good old days, if you accept that they were harder-life days. No washing machine or dryer. Work for my mom and dad in the unheated, bitter, cold chicken store. Feathers and chicken intestines put bread on our table. Mom's walk from Dekalb ave. with heavy grocery bags were all life shorteners. Among the things lacking in the period after WWII were all the medication and diagnostics which have contributed to longevity and quality of life.

    If we mourn the absence of TV and the internet, think about not having CAT scans, MRI’s, sophisticated blood analysis, an array of broad spectrum antibiotics, anti-hypertensives, Cholesterol reducing drugs, oral anti-diabetics. antivirals, powerful pain reducers and wonderfully trained medical professionals.

    Dad was never a bar-mitzvah. He couldn’t read Hebrew and we never belonged to a synagogue. He spoke yiddish with mom and felt most comfortable with other Jews. My dad was five-five and never weighed more than 145 pounds. He worked hard from childhood, and probably never had a warm, affectionate moment with his parents or his brother or sister. If I had been an athlete, he probably would not have attended any of my games but I always knew that he took pride in my accomplishments.

    The Korean war: Within 10 years, the U.S. was plunged into 2 wars. This war involved hundreds of thousands of men who had been too young for WWII and many veterans of WWII were recalled to fight in Korea. College kept me out of Korea. I entered the army in October 1954. The war was all but officially over. In my 2 years in the army, many of my fellow soldiers were veterans of both WWII and Korea.

    Fort Dix was my first experience with the army. From the reception station on Whitehall St. in N.Y., we were bused down the NJ turnpike to Fort Dix and basic training. Just behind me as we were assigned serial numbers, was my pharmacy school classmate and soon to become army buddy, Art Weisbart.

    For the 18 and 19 year olds (I was 22 at that time) basic training was a breeze. For me it was mere survival. At the end of 8 weeks, I had survived and was 27 pounds lighter. Walking back and forth to school had been my most strenuous exercise. We had, what seemed to me, a cruel sadistic drill sgt. We double timed (ran) almost everywhere, rain or shine. Chow time was limited to waiting on line, gulping down food and out again to double time to wherever.….. I still fold my clothes in the way we leaned back in basic. I did fulfill my gun shooting fantasy. I’m not sure if I ever hit a target but I did qualify on the M1 garand, M1 carbine and I threw a live grenade. The rifle range at Ft. Dix was in the most isolated part of the camp. My days on the range were probably the coldest of that winter. The sandy soil was frozen solid and the firing position was prone on what seemed like razor blades. When a few snow flakes fluttered down I thought shooting would end and we’d all get on trucks and head back to the barracks. No way. As long as we could see the targets 300 yds down range we stayed.

    K.P: Eventually, my name appeared on the K.P. roster. I tied a white towel at the foot of my bunk and was roused at 4 A.M. I spent the next 15 hours scrubbing pots and pans. The next time my name appeared on a duty roster, I was trucked to the army laundry building where woolen blankets are washed and dried. A wet, woolen blanket weighs 3 times that of a dry one. They are hand transferred from washer to dryer. There were thousands of them. We did that little chore for 10 hours.

    Uncle Sam issues each soldier dress uniforms, fatigues, underwear, socks and boots. Boots seem to be the army’s greatest concern. Your uniform may need alteration, but your boots (2 pr) must fit.

    I gained a lot self confidence in the army.

    The two army years were thinking years. Periodically I thought about how my post army life would unfold. Without knowing how, when or where, I envisioned a life away from New York City. I imagined myself in a rural setting. I guess the summer in Woodridge and my being stationed in rural Nuremberg set the stage for my small town future.

    I seem to have passed over my Pharmacy school experience. I had a genuine dislike for Brooklyn College of Pharmacy. I was a lousy student and the courses were boring. The school was small. A single building on Lafayette Ave. No campus. I failed 2 out of 5 course in my sophmore year and I had to repeat that year. It was a sobering experience.

    Dean Schaeffer suggested that I was wasting my parent’s money. When I told him that I was working and paying my own tuition, he mellowed a bit and wished me luck. The repeat year was easy and I managed to pass all of my courses and graduated. In June 1954, I took my N.Y. state boards and passed. Ironically, about 20% of my classmates had to repeat the exams.

    I guess that my college experience is linked with my after school / weekend job. During my sophmore year I replied to an ad for a position at the St. Catherine Pharmacy. The pharmacy was owned and operated by Mario Furia. I worked for Mario for 3 years. He was a little guy, barely 5 feet 4 inches with a graying mustache. He traveled every day, 7 days a week from Newark N.J. to the pharmacy on DeKalb and Vanderbilt. Mario was very kind to me, often ordering something for me to eat when I arrived from school. In addition he usually loaned me tuition money which I repaid during the summer.

    I could write a book about Mario Furia. He became a pharmacist during prohibition when only pharmacies could sell alcohol on a doctor's prescription.

    Just as I had quickly assumed responsibility at Horowitz’s pharmacy, I easily took my place with Mario. During my work time I dispensed most of the prescriptions. Much of what I had learned as a teenager at Horowitz’s plus pharmacy school made it easy at St. Catherines.

    The neighbothood in which the pharmacy was located had some unique qualities. It was the seat of the catholic archdiocise. There were several convents, a catholic High school and lots of nuns and priests.. At the same time the area had a very Italian flavor with an assortment of illegal activities. Numbers, prostitutes (we were 4 blocks from the Brooklyn Navy Yard) and a variety of gambling establishments and after hours drinking holes.

    The Piro brothers were the undertakers across the street. Being well connected, most of Fort Greene’s dead ended up at Piros.

    Mario’s pharmacy was the only catholic owned one in the area so the health needs of most of the Italians /catholics came through our front door. It never occurred to me that we conducted anything but normal commerce. Two blocks north of the pharmacy on Clinton St. were the doctors offices and the homes of the rich and politically elite of Brooklyn.

    I look back now with nostalgia at the hundreds of characters I met in Mario’s Pharmacy.

    Woman's panties were called bloomers. Boxer shorts were the norm for men's underwear.

    Electric razors left your face raw and red.

    Navy Dungerees had button flies.

    Many of my classmates were never drafted. With the Korean war over, the need for large numbers of draftees ended. When I applied for pharmacy positions, I was asked if I had been in the service yet. Many prospective employers reckoned that hiring a potential draftee was not good business. I went up to my draft board and asked when I would be called. They were rather vague about a date but gave me the option of selecting a date, so I did. That’s how I I became a soldier on October 14, 1954.

    Wow, I’m recalling so many experiences, that I’ve passed over my two summers as a bellhop at Sha-Wan-ga lodge near Bloomsburg N,Y. Sha-wan-ga was a summer resort that catered to mostly young families and young singles. I met the two Stans. Stan Kauffman later to become a professional dancer named Stan Kay) and Stan Brandt. Both guys were a year older than me and worked as Bell hops in Miami during the winter, and in the Catskills during the summer. They were about 19 years old and each had a car and the sharpest clothes I’d ever seen. The girls seemed to fall at their feet. To my simple, undeveloped precortex brain, theirs was the life for me. I told my parents that I was going to quit school for a year and bell hop with the two Stans in Miami. The news was so devastating to my parents that I had to put my brain in reverse and purge my mind of the idea. That’s how I did not become a professional bellhop. The two Stans went on to other careers as well.

    I had a great time at Sha-wan-ga. I made enough money for one year’s college tuition. I also met Sally Weiner. It was like hitting the female lottery jackpot. Both summers at Sha-wan-ga were female heaven- packed.

    Recently, checking a map of the region where Sha-wan-ga lodge had been located. I found a road called Sha-wan-ga Road with housing and streets where the hotel and its out building had been.

    To put things in order, it was after my second and final summer at Sha-wan-ga that I went to work for Mario Furia.

    I never realized how much there is to remember.

    I remember getting off the plane in San Antonio at 2 A.M. dressed in my army overcoat over my dress woolen uniform and freezing. By 6:30 A.M. I was standing in formation in front of my new barracks in my fatigues and still freezing. After chow, at 1 P.M. it was 80 degrees and I was actually sweating. This was Fort Sam Houston, Texas in January 1955. Fort Sam Houston was the destination for those of us who were to be trained as medics. My pharmacy degree only allowed me to apply for a commission. There were not enough pharmacy officer slots, so I would have to wait for an opening, then agree to serve two years from date of commissioning. My turn came exactly one year later in Germany and I had to say, “thanks but no thanks”. After all, I was already a Sp2, and almost a short timer.

    The Jewish community of San Antonio was on a special mission. Those of us who were Jewish trainees were invited to a monthly bagels and lox breakfast. Trainees who were to be stationed there long term were prospective husbands for the community's Jewish daughters. Those of us who would be passing through only got the bagels and lox.

    The many nights that I had spent at the Beth Moses emergency room made my training at Fort Sam a breeze. Though I had never done one before, starting an I.V. and giving intramuscular injections seemed quite natural to me. Some of my fellow trainees actually passed out when it was their turn to become casualties. The most difficult part of army medic training was evacuating casualties at night in darkness. This bit of fun and games took place in the high country near San Antonio. Real, live scorpions had to be shaken from boots in the morning and the daytime temperature was always in the 90s.

    Unbelievably, I never had a telephone conversation with parents in my 2 years in the army. On the other hand, my dad and I exchanged letters almost weekly. I wish those letters had survived.

    San Antonio was 150 miles from Laredo, Mexico, a honky-tonk border town which beckoned to G.I.s . It was my first time outside of the U.S. The border was wide open. Dressed in very casual civilian clothes and with our dog tags clinking around our necks, we just walked across the bridge from Nuevo Laredo in the U.S. to Laredo, Mexico. The poverty was palpable. Little boys came up to us, hawking their sisters' sexual services. Silver trinkets were for sale very cheaply. Artie Weisbart and I had about twenty dollars between us. It was enough for our Mexican weekend for food lodging and a few trinkets.

    Sunday at the Breckenridge Hotel, you could order all the shrimp you could eat for $2.50. Too bad. I didn’t like shell fish. Some of my Fort Sam buddies passed up breakfast in order to fill up on shrimp.

    If you liked airplanes, you were in airforce heaven. With three airbases nearby, the sky was always buzzing with fighters, trainers and helicopters.

    On April 4, 1955, we departed by train for New York where after a few days delay, we boarded a troop ship bound for Bremerhaven, Germany. I did get to see my mom & dad for a few hours before shipping out. I didn’t see them again for 17 months.

    The troop ship was the General Buckner. It was an experience I wouldn’t ever want to repeat. For nine days, the odor of vomit was pervasive. If you rolled out of your bunk (stacked four high) you immediately stepped into 2 inches of vomitacious water. You had to get your boots on while you still in your bunk or your bare feet became immersed in yellowish slime.

    Meals were served in such a way that you were on a line which wound up or down several decks. Breakfast could almost run into lunch. After eating you proceeded to the nearest barrel and vomited. By the second or third day, the seas became very rough and the ship rolled, leaving you in a constant state of nausea.

    Once you rose in the morning and left the sleeping area, you were encouraged not to return until after supper. Ironic, because the only relief from the nausea and vertigo was to be horizontal. Actually, once on deck, with wind blowing and ship swaying, inhaling the sea air was somewhat remedial. I had to shift from one sheltered spot on deck to another in order to evade the wind gusts. Meanwhile, below decks, stealing of personal items was rampant. The only semblence of security was to padlock your duffel bag and suspend it from your bunk. In a brief moment of unawareness, my almost new field jacket disappeared. My only recourse was to snatch up the next unattended field jacket that I spotted. Showering was impossible. Hygienically, the best you could do was wash different parts of your body at different times. The deck in the wash areas were far worse than the bunk areas.

    On the upper decks were dependent wives, children and infants of army personnel who were eligible to have dependents with them at their duty assignments. There was no air transportation for dependents.

    After 4 or 5 days on board, I started losing weight. Clothes fitted looser to the point where I had difficulty keeping my pants up. Debarking the ship, I held my duffel bag on my shoulder with one hand and held my pants up with the other. It was great to be on solid ground again.

    From the troop ship we boarded trains and headed south. We passed an endless stream of orange tiled houses and before long I was asleep. The best sleep in almost ten days. Eight or nine hours later we detrained and were assigned to barracks in Kaiserslauten, ready for assignment to various 7th army units in southern Germany. We were notified that the next day was Passover and Jewish soldiers could sign up for a Passover seder to be held at a nearby air force installation. In a somewhat semiconscious state I took my first real shower since leaving New Jersey. The water was ice cold but at last I felt clean.

    In a wrinkled class A uniform I boarded a bus with about 25 other Jewish guys and traveled an hour and a half to the “nearby air force Installation”. It turned out be what is now Ramstein Air base. There were over 200 men at the Seder conducted by a Jewish chaplain, who most of us couldn’t hear. No P.A. system… In 30 minutes I was sound asleep, food uneaten. A gentle nudge 2 hours later got me up and on the bus back to the repo-depo. Next day was my real fully conscious day in Germany. Without any particular duties, I went to the PX, bought a can of pipe tobacco and saw my first general.

    On the third day off the ship we were interviewed for assignment. Along with about 30 other guys we were trucked to the headquarters of the 39th Infantry regt., the 9th infantry division in Nurenberg. Thus began my career as an army medic/ part time pharmacist. Artie Weisbart was also assigned to the 39th. He became a medic with the 2nd battalion in Zirndorf and I was assigned to the 3rd battalion in Fuerth. Each infantry battalion had a medial platoon attached to provide field medics and an aid station for casualties evacuated from the field.

    When I arrived at Monteith barracks, home of the 3rd battalion, the troops were In the field. Someone pointed to an unused bunk and said, “take that one”. I drew some bedding from the supply Sgt., undressed, and slept for 12 hours. The next morning I woke with this huge guy standing over me. He looked down and said, “ are you Jewish”? This was my first greeting in Germany. The hulk turned out to be Shelly Krauss, my buddy for the next 15 months. He read my name on my duffel bag and assumed the obvious, another Jewish G.I. had arrived in the land that Hitler tried to rid of Jews.

    How ironic, that the Monteith barracks entrance was located on Jacob Wassermann Strasse.

    Wow! Germany.................there’s a lot of remembering,….. being in the U.S. Army in Germany.

    In 1955, Nurenberg was still partially in ruins following the allied bombing during WWII. What had been the old walled city was being rebuilt from the rubble. The most pervasive sounds were those of the putt-putts of motor bikes. The color of men’s clothng was either a shade of brown or ashy gray. Woman’s clothing still reflected the styles of the pre-1940 era.

    Nurenberg had been the scene of a great deal of Nazi official activity in the 30s and early 40s. A giant stadium had been built in which 10s of thousands had rallied to Hitler and his monsters. The stadium minus its huge swastika still stood. In 1956. the stadium was actually the site of a world Jehovahs Witness convention. Ironically, Witnesses had been one of Hitler’s targets for extermination.

    The Palace of Justice, where the 1946 Nurenberg Trials had been held, was our synagogue. The second floor, just above the courtroom was where we gathered every Friday evening for Shabbat services. Our rabbi, chaplain Pincus Goodbatt, would start each service with, “ know where you are”. The hundred or so of us knew what he meant. If the Nazis had succeeded, it was unlikely that we would be there. This was my first experience as part of an organized congregation of Jews. It was an introduction that has had a lifelong profound effect on me. I have never been embraced with the spiritual part of being jewish but I am a part of the Jewish community and the Jewish people.

    The army is a very structured hierarchy in which officers and enlisted persons do not socialize. Friday evenings at Jewish services was a very obvious exception. At one point, my battalion commander filled in for our cantor. He was a West Pointer with a great voice. In the preparation of our oneg Shabbat, officers, their wives and us lowly grunts all pitched in to prepare kosher salami sandwiches. We did maintain decorum to the extent that we always respected rank, never treating our fellow Jews who were officers disrespectfully. We ranged in rank from privates to several majors and Lt. Colonels.

    It took very little to convert me into a European tourist. It was hard to imagine, getting on a bus, and 6 hours later, being in Paris. It was the first of many times I would visit the city of lights. Between visiting the countries of western Europe, I managed to spend some ”delightful" weeks in the field with my medical platoon. For months, we spent two weeks in the field and one week at our base, alternately. These caombat exercises were in all kinds of weather and took us almost to the communist Czech border. We spent many happy days in a heavy weapons impact zone called Hohenfels.

    Everyone was issued a weapon, even the medics. As soon as we arrived at our bivouack area I tucked my carbine in the back of our truck and settled into the field routine. I learned a lot from some of the “old” soldiers. Some had been in WWII or Korea and some in both wars.

    Some Nurenburg sites: Billingenlangen strasse was my trolley stop…. The Americana club was the G.I’. s downtown service club. The Haupt Banhof was the main train station and schatse strasse was the other service area.

    Regimental headquarters was located on a former german airforce base. The airfield was bordered by farms whose buildings housed families and the family cows. They were separated by a thin wall. The house of course smelled like a barn but the cows kept the house warm in winter.

    Cow & human manure was collected and placed in giant wheeled vats that we called ‘honey wagons”. The wagons were horse drawn and used as fertilizer for the crops. All of our fresh vegetables came from Denmark where they didn’t use human manure.

    One unpleasant day, one of our jeeps collided with a honey wagon. The odor was unimaginable. The jeep and its occupants were completely covered in shit. The M.P. s stopped the jeep at the base entrance and kept them there til the base fire company made the jeep’s occupants remove all of their clothes and hosed them and the jeep down. The clothes were burned on the spot and the Jeep was taken to the motor pool and repainted. I never found out what happened to the honey wagon and its driver.

    Our aid station acted as a VD clinic and treatment center for minor illness. A padlocked cabinet contained our supply of morphine syrettes. Each was like a tiny toothpaste tube with a needle at the end and containing 15 mg of morphine. The morphine was to relieve the pain of combat wounds and injuries. There were 24 syrettes which could not be secured when we were in the field. Most of the time the syrettes resided in my fatigue shirt pocket.

    Cordon Bleu was a NATO exercise in which thousands of troops and vehicles all over western Germany were involved. I was sitting in a medical vehicle on top of a hill and as far as one could see, there were trucks, and armored vehicles. What a sight.

    The Jewish chaplain, Rabbi Goodblatt, was affectionately called Pinky (Pincus) by his wife. During our too frequent outings in the field we were usually accompanied by chaplains of various denominations, except “Pinky”. Some of us convinced him that he should visit with the troops for a few days. He loved the idea but Mrs. Rabbi was less than thrilled about her husband being out in the elements. Finally, we got him into field gear and had him join us. Those few of us who were Jewish swelled with pride at having our chubby little Jewish chaplain with the star of David on his collar, out with troops.

    I’m finding my rememberances are like a long lost archive with lost treasures that reveal themselves, one memory leading to the next.

    An interesting Nurenburger was a photo shop keeper I met soon after arriving at Montieth Bararcks. He was captured by U.S. troops in North Africa and shipped to Kansas for the duration of the war. He liked America but wouldn’t allow his daughters to date G.I.s.

    Other than soldiers or civilian U.S. army employees, the only other Jews in Nurenberg were displaced persons from from eastern Europe. I never figured out why they hadn’t emigrated to Israel or the U.S.

    Passover seder1956 was held at the Hotel Grand in Nurenberg. All jews, military and civilian, and displaced persons living in the area were invited. It was an event that had not happened in that city for at least 25 years.

    An interesting site was the Kirscheplatz in the center of Nurenberg. In the square, in front of the church was a monument which marked the building and the burning of a synagogue not once but twice in 200 years.

    In mid April of 1956, Shelly and I and a Lt. named Ira Gewertzman drove to Italy and back through the French Riviera, just when the Grace Kelly wedding happened in Monaco. We saw the procession coming down from the church, Kelly and the Prince in an open Daimler Benz.

    Long before the European Union, we could travel all of western Europe with an Army I.D. card as our passport.

    I didn’t save any lives but I did get in trouble trying. A man on a motorcycle collided with a small truck almost at the entrance to Monteith. Medics in the aid station were called out. The man’s leg was wedged between his cycle and the trucks body. He was screaming, obviously in great pain. I ran back to the aid station and got a syrette of morphine and injected him. The civilian ambulance arrived in about 15 minutes and I thought that was end of that.

    Several days later, I was ordered to my company commander’s office and really reamed out. I was not supposed to inject a civilian with morphine or anything else for that matter. I meant well. If the injured man had been a G.I., it would have been OK.

    Officially, the allied occupation ended in June 1955. Thereafter, we were guests of the German Democratic Republic. Actually it meant very little to most us. Rail travel had been free when we were occupiers, now we paid regular fares.

    Each company had its own mess hall. Medical company was the most desirable of the regimental mess halls. Somehow our mess sgt. transformed army chow into special meals. The army was trying to discharge him. because he exceeded the mandatory retirement age. There was a rumor that he had enlisted during WWI in 1918. He was at least 55 years old. Poor guy, the army had been his home for over 35 years.

    Sgt. Bartram was our platoon sgt. He took a real dislike to a few of us. Shelly Krauss was on top of his shit list. Every time we went on leave, Bartram was waiting for us to get back late. We never accommodated him. I’m sure he had all kinds of punishment planned for us.

    The guy with highest I.Q. in the regiment was Rodney Harrington, a tall lincolnesque looking New Englander. Everyone liked him. He later went to Veterinary school and moved to Australia.

    My first official experience in medical company was being part of a duo to return a soldier named Pelkie to the company from the division prison. He had a congenital disease called thievery. would later find out that he would steal and sell anything not bolted down and under guard. He had been caught stealing coffee from our emergency in-field rations and selling it on the black market. On the other hand, if you needed something not readily available, Pelkie was your go-to guy. Some months later, they made him the movie theater manager. Go figure it out. His special friends never paid admission.

    In the summer of 1956, Artie and I travelled by train to Hamburg, and rented a Volkswagon. We took a ferry to Denmark and drove from there to Norway and Sweden and back to Copenhagen. We covered over 2,000 miles. I did all the driving. Artie didn’t know how to drive.

    When the soldiering and touring had run their courses I became a short timer. With only weeks to go, I started to count the days when I would board the troop ship at Bremerhaven and head home. Even after being away for 17 months, going home was full of trepidation. Uncle Sam fed me, clothed me, housed me and had put a few dollars in my pocket. Now I had to face a whole new life. I had a college degree but I was sure that I had forgotten everything I learned in college. I did miss my folks, but had become very comfortable with the army and living what I considered the good life.

    The voyage home was something I didn’t look forward to. Though, I must say it was a lark compared to the voyage to Germany. Guys I ate with every day, shared field duty with, played cards with, would soon be dim memories. I often wondered how life would play out for them.

    The ship to Germany was the Buckner and the ship that took me back to the states was called the Bruckner. I did go up on deck to catch sight of the Statue of Liberty as we passed on our way to Staten Island and terra firma. We were bused all the way to Fort Dix from which I had to bus back to N.Y. and see my family for the first time in almost a year and a half.

    Becoming a civilian was not easy. I was discharged, given about $200 mustering out pay and was looking for a job 3 days later.

    A silver star of david on a chain around my neck disappeared on the first day at Fort Dix in Oct. 1954. It was a bar mitzvah present from my cousin Sylvia. On my second day home, 2 years later I was trying on some of my civilian clothes when out dropped my star and chain from the cuff of the trousers I had been wearing when I was inducted. I’ve been wearing it all these years later.

    I called a few girls I had dated before the army. They were all married or in serious relationships. My bellhop friend, Stan Brandt had just been discharged from the Coast Guard. Artie was also job hunting. Shelly Krauss got a job as a liquor salesman. Mario had become severely alcoholic and his business was crumbling around him. When I saw him I was almost in tears. Joe Horowitz was still operating his pharmacy but the neighborhood was changing rapidly and my teenage refuge, the hospital, had closed and been converted into a yeshiva.

    My dad was working for a butcher, just getting by. Getting a pharmacy position had taken a new twist since I’d been away. It was almost mandatory that I join union local 1199 in order to work. So I joined. It was a rather benign union whose president was Leon Davis. Davis was a pharmacist and a socialist. His salary was pegged to the union wage for his pharmacist members.

    My body was back in Brooklyn but my mind was still in the army. I applied for jobs, was hired and left after a week or so. In one case I worked for 2 brothers, one of whom was stone deaf and the other had migraine headaches. I decided that I would stick with the next job no matter what. The next job was Delta Pharmacy in the middle of one of the most violent neighborhoods in Brooklyn.

    My boss was Murray Zeiler, a WWII and Korea vet. The pharmacy didn’t provide a very professional atmosphere. Not many prescriptions but lots of condoms and hair pomades. I soon learned that Zeiler had shot and killed a guy during a hold up of his pharmacy. When I closed at night a local cop usually walked me to my car.

    The shooting had instilled a certain wariness and respect from the locals. Over the months I came to know a whole different culture and a lot of interesting characters. A whole day would go by in which no white person entered the pharmacy. In a way, I was a novelty to folks who came to the pharmacy.

    One April weekend, I had a date in Laurelton and met my Angel, Beth. Corny but true, it was love at first sight. She came to the door wearing a blue print dress and I was smitten. It was a double date with Stan Brandt, my old Bellhop buddy and his girl friend.

    The next day, my dad drove me to work. He asked about my date and I told him that I was going to marry Beth. He thought I was crazy. Six months later we were married.

    Meeting the prospective in-laws was daunting. It happened on a beautiful June day in Asbury Park, N.J. where Beth’s sister was graduating from a fancy private high school.

    My first meeting with dear, sweet, mother-in-law and my best friend forever father-in-law went something like this: I said, "I love Beth and she loves me and we’re going to get married”. And we did marry 4 months later.

    That is what I remember of the first part of my life.

    I was eleven years old at the first Family Circle meeting. Much has happened since 1943. For those who may be interested I will happily update you with the more recent events in the life of the Bridgeton, NJ Wassermans.

    As a retired person I have lots of time to ruminate. Beth and I spent 35 very fulfilling years operating our pharmacy. When that phase of our lives ended there was a short while in which I had to reinvent myself. I can report that there certainly is life after the pharmacy.

    We've had the opportunity to really know our children and grandchildren. For those who do not know, Keith is our oldest at 44 and is a stay at home super-dad who does independent, commercial promotional videos. Keith and Betsy are the parents of Aharon, 16, Jacob 12, and a very delightful Isaac age 2 and 1/2. Betsy is a PhD human relations person with the Univ. of Pennsylvania Health System.

    Roy is 42 and married to Wendy Foster and they are the parents of Ben, almost 12. Roy is a lawyer with the NY Legal Aid Society. I can hardly believe that he works in, of all places, Brooklyn. Go figure it. (New baby due in November ’03.)

    Pam is 37, married to Dan Adcock, our favorite son-in-law (our only one). They are mom and dad to Sam, age 3 1/2. They live in Silver Spring, Maryland. Pam is the education director for Population Connection a non-profit environmental organization. Dan is the legislative director for the National Association of Retired Federal Employees (NARFE).

    Beth and 1 are married for 46 delightful years. Her dad, a retired physician is 96 years old and lives with his 92 year old second wife. They are a cool couple and provide us with a wonderful connection to this community. Having practiced over 50 years in Bridgeton, he is much loved and respected by everyone.

    Without boring you with the details, it’s been a good life.

    Lenny Wasserman

  • FANIA: as told by Gale Kaplan *NEW*

    Foreword

    For quite a long time now, Martin has been trying to put together a Tessler Family Book. Several weeks ago, I received a copy of his biography and when I finally got around to reading it, I was impressed not only by the nice writing job, but especially by the fact that I didn't know most of the things contained therein.

    I called him and promised to get busy doing my share. Having sent out to him "Part I," I got a phone call in which Martin returned the compliment and commented that he wasn't expecting anything so ambitious. Ambitious it is, and anyone finding it excessively so is welcome to stop reading any time they wish, but perhaps an explanation of its scope is in order.

    It hadn't occurred to me until after the initial conversation with Martin just how little we actually know about each other. And many of the things we do know are fairly shallow and trivial. At one time, the Tesslers were a true extended family and knew everything that went on in everyone's life, maybe even too much so. But these days, the world has changed and extended families are no longer. Everyone has a busy life and prefers to have it centered just around their immediate kin. When a notice arrives about a forthcoming famity get-together, adults wince and children groan. Family finctions can be an a real inconvenience. It seems that only funerals get significant attendance, but celebrating death is not the idea. On those other occasions when we do all come together, I must admit that I sometimes don't know who is who, who is married to whom, which child is whose.

    In addition to today's nuclear lifestyle, there are bound to be in a family of this magnitude peeves, old and new. Some are legitimate, some are petty. Things someone did or forgot to do, words someone said or forgot to say drive people apart, never seem to go away, and they grow and fester and sometimes really hurt. Maybe if we knew each other better, we could look upon each other as less of a nuisance.

    So it is in that spirit that I am setting out to put this epic on paper. Valerie has also commented that it is probably a good idea to write things down while we still remember, a point well taken. I know that to most people, writing is a distasteful, sometimes punishing task, so to put a lighter note to it, I'll just go back to the old childhood challenge, "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

    ——Gale

    Part I: Exodus

    On the nineteenth of February 1959, a huge snowstorm shut down Warsaw International Airport. The five Tessier / Gaidukowski's were shuttled back to their hotel to wait for the weather to clear. On the other side of the Atlantic, a multitude of dismayed Tesslers and their respective descendants dismissed the New York Times reporters and camera crew and headed home. The reunion with the family's eldest, left behind in Russia some forty years ago, was yet to happen.

    I don't remember when exactly my sister and I became aware of the Tesslers' existence. We knew that our grandmother sported a hyphenated name of Tessler-Kalichman, but had never given it much thought. We were growing up in Stalinist Russia, where children were to-be-seen-but-not-heard, so asking questions was not exactly encouraged, either at school or at home.

    Valerie and I grew up inseparable. She took certain liberties in abusing me when I was little, but fortunately, I didn't stay "little" for very long. She started school when I was five, and having been left behind for the first time in my life, I would wait for her to return from school so that I could do her homework. Needless to say, by the time she finished first grade, so had I, and although I was officially too young (being an April child) to start school the following year, I was accepted in first grade one year early and was assigned the official title of "Valerie's Sister." I still have a copy of the letter my grandmother wrote to the school board petitioning for an early admission. My father's signature at the bottom of the page is also in my grandmother's hand. She was in charge and that was that. My parents had busy lives, and grandparents taking over was standard practice in Russia. The school, around the corner from us, was small and overcrowded with post-war babies, so first-graders attended in the afternoons. I remember coming home from school just before dinner-time every day to find my sister sitting on the dining-room table, legs dangling down, with my grandmother sitting in a chair between her legs and reading to her. I, on the other hand, preferred doing things on my own, and that included sundry mischief which I won't go into here in too much detail.

    One of my favorite pastimes was taking things apart and then putting them back together, not always successfully. Clocks and anything else that had moving parts were at the top of my list. Those who may consider this passion a sign of healthy curiosity and an admirable creative activity need to understand that getting anything in post-war Russia was a daunting task, and when I was done exploring how things worked, they usually worked no more. Punishment was swift and "old-fashioned," but didn't discourage me for long. Another cause for punishment - there were two places in the city that I used to find magical: a triangular flower bed in front of the opera house, always planted in red, and a cobbled fortress in the Old Town riddled with cannonballs from a sixteenth century conflict between the Letts and the Swedes. I used to wander out of the house to go visit them or to explore the small stand of pines near the river. My grandmother, finding me "missing," would turn into a bloodhound. Having retrieved me from my "excursion," she would drag me home by whatever the body part she grabbed onto first and then kick the crap out of me. It wasn't until I too was placed in charge of my grandchildren's safety that I learned to appreciate her exasperation. And so life went on.

    One day, a package arrived from America. That word "America" was spoken in a whisper, it being the name of "the enemy," but as with all children, the softer the whispering, the closer we listened. It was then, I believe, that we learned of the Tesslers. I think both my sister and I hated the idea. Conformity was the strictest of standards: we wore school uniforms, brown or navy with a white collar, a black apron for everyday activities and a white one for holidays and other special school days and, of course, the ubiquitous red satin tie identifying us as proper members of the junior communist "pioneers." When I was in the third grade, a blue beret with the school emblem on the front was added to the costume de rigueur. We each had a dress-up outfit, sewn to order at a nearby atelier, where there was a book of fashions to choose from. That was it. Out of the package "from America", there emerged some children's clothing which the adults were proud to clad us in, but we were extremely embarrassed by it and found wearing it unpatriotic and bourgeois. Often we would secretly drag something more "acceptable" out of the house and changed into it in the courtyard recess of our building before being seen in public.

    Some time later, we received a photograph depicting the Tesslers-of-the-Day. It was covered with a sheet of tissue paper outlining each member. There was a number over every face and on the back, each person was identified by aunt Emma, the only one still able to do so in Russian. Many hours were spent staring at it, and Valerie and I found that part very entertaining because with it came stories from grandma which we had never heard before. Up until then, the five of us were the only family we understood, so now would be the right time to explain how we had come to be.

    After being separated from the rest of the sisters, my grandmother settled in Kiev, a few hundred kilometers from her native Zhitomir. I do not know much about her younger years, but my mother was born in December of 1922, nine days after her natural father was killed in an accident. So we were told as children. My grandmother was at that time the head financial officer in TORGSIN, the Ukrainian arm of the Foreign Trade Commission. Having given birth to her only child at the age of thirty and being highly placed at work, she hired a full-time governess for my mother, a German lady whose name I do not know, but I do know that my mother was fluent in German when she was a girl. When my mother was ten, my grandmother married Samuel Kalichman, a man who had tirelessly courted her for many years. Sam had no family of his own other than a much younger sister Fannie, who was a music teacher.

    A small aside about her:

    Soon after the war, Sam took a trip to Kiev to see his sister. Being a musician, her most cherished possession was the grand piano he had bought her when she was accepted at the conservatory. Not surprisingly, with war-time and post-war looting, the piano was gone. With his usual determination, Sam set out to look for it. After several days of false leads, he finally located the piano in a dark, damp, demi-basement apartment a dozen blocks from his sister's residence. On top of the lid, there was a kerosene burner. A pot of potatoes was cooking on it and the water was boiling over onto the keyboard. Sam wept, and he never went back to Kiev again. We did get to see Fania, though, when she used to visit with us at our "dacha" near the Baltic seashore in the summer. One summer in the mid 1950's, my grandmother and she got a hold of a full bolt of flowered crepe-de-chine from a black marketeer and had identical dresses made for themselves from it. The dress became one of grandma's favorites and I remember seeing her in it often. In the early 90's, I was traveling in Russia and had an opportunity to stop in Kiev. I decided to drop by and see "aunt Fannie," not actually knowing whether she was still alive. Very few people there have telephones, but I did have the address. The housing situation in Kiev being impossible, nobody ever moves. When I arrived at her building and climbed the four flights of steps to her communal apartment, I found the usual "menu" below the doorbell: for so-and-so, ring once, for so-and-so, ring twice, etc. I rang the requisite four times and the door opened. Inside the apartment, I saw four very old ladies. After some forty years, I would have probably been unable to recognize her but for the very same flowered crepe-de-chine dress she was wearing! Yes, in Russia, things needed to last.

    But back to the main tale:

    Sam adored children, doted on my mother and later, spoiled my sister and me, something my grandma semi-seriously frowned on. He was the Director-in-Chief of the munitions plant in Kiev, so when Kiev became the first Soviet city to be bombed by the Germans on the twenty-second of June 1941, the plant was promptly evacuated to Sverdlovsk (currenty Yekatirinburg) in the Ural Mountains, just on the other side of the Eurasian border. (As part of PBS World at War series, there is a documentary on how the entire plant was trucked over the Urals and back in production within two weeks. For many years, my grandfather collected a generous pension from the government for that miraculous achievement.) The next four years spent there were lean and spartan. My grandmother used to tell us that when Sam called her from the plant in Kiev and advised her that he was picking my mother up from school and they would be leaving Kiev within the hour, she had just cooked a pot roast and put it out on the balcony to cool. The image of that pot roast left behind on the balcony continued to torment her during the hungry times in Sverdlovsk.

    My mother met my father in the Urals when one day she was sent to a local farm to dig for potatoes. He had been drafted into the Polish army right after Hitler invaded and sent to Russia for training. All I know about his family is that he was the fifth or sixth of seven children and they all perished in the camps; Auschwitz, I believe. This was among the many taboo topics when we were kids, so we never spoke about that either. I am guessing about this because during our time in Poland, my father had gone off to visit Oswiencim - Polish for Auschwitz. (Valerie seems to recall hearing that all of my father's family was shot right in front of their home the day the Germans arrived, but I guess we will never know for sure.) One day short of nine months after their nuptuals, my sister arrived. She was one of five babies born in that hospital that day and all of them came down with some exotic infection. Of the five, only my sister survived; a tribute to my grandmother's sleepless determination which lasted for six months and made my sister the apple of her eye for as long as I can remember. (I, of course,was never that delicate, but more about that later.)

    When the war ended in June of 1945, the newly expanded family made tracks for the western republics hoping to get out of Russia while the chaos lasted. They arrived in Riga on September 4-th, my sister's first birthday, but my mother was already pregnant with me by then and refused to roam any farther, thereby dashing my father's dream of escaping from Russia, which he always hated.

    I arrived in April of 1946, all thirteen pounds and twelve ounces of me, and measuring a scant eighteen inches, but cute as hell, I am told. When my mother brought me home, I was introduced to Valerie as "little sister," and she promptly named me Galochka, a name she had heard somewhere and which was to become my destiny. From what I know, ray father was in jail at the time for some offense or other (there were so many offenses against the state in those days that at one time or another, almost everyone got to cool their heels in a jail cell for something). In any event, when I was born, he was misinformed that my mother had given birth to a son and was devastated to find me in my crib when he was released four months later. When I was a child, he would cut my hair short, dress me in slacks, call me George, and have me kick a soccer ball around with him. My grandmother would be furious, but I survived nicely; as I had mentioned, I was never delicate and no gender identity crisis ensued.

    Upon arrival in Riga, my grandfather landed a job for both himself and my father in a factory that produced shoeblack. Grandpa, being the business genius, realized that in a city with barely any electricity left after the war, the wax supplied to the factory for shoe polish could be put to better use by turning all they could pilfer into pcandles. This meant dealing in a not-so-legitimate market, but the Stalinist paranoia had not yet fully set in and besides, Sam was smart, and the idea was replete with tempting possibilities.

    When I was five, my grandfather suffered a stroke and was hospitalized for many months. Upon his return home, we were moved out of the corner room (one of three which comprised our apartment) and the room became my grandfather's. He never left it again. He was a proud man and having been disabled by the stroke, we would not even eat meals with the rest of us because he drooled. My sister and I took turns delivering a tray to him and when we showed up to pick it up a little while later, we would still make attempts to entertain us as best he could. One afternoon when I was six, I brought him his tray and found him slumped over in his chair. To this day, I think of him as the nicest man I have ever known.

    My grandfather's death precipitated our first real confrontation with our "Jewishness." He was laid out on a white sheet in the room where he had died, and a strange little old man with a long beard and in a black frock and hat was brought in to sit with him. For the next day or two, Valerie and I heard peculiar mumbling coming from that room and when we peeked through the keyhole (we were forbidden to enter), we saw the old man rocking back and forth. It's not that we were unaware of being Jewish before that; Riga was full of Jews and much as we had suffered occasional name calling and even a few punches now and then, I never did believe that we had a monopoly on ethnic venom. Besides, nobody ever advertised their Jewishness until the old man appreared at our door that day to pray for my grandfather's soul. I had no other contacts with the idea of death during my childhood years except when the Father- of- the- Nation kicked off in March of 1954 and we were chased out of our classrooms into the frigid air to observe two minutes of silence as our expression of boundless grief at Stalin's passing, a ritual quite unlike my grandfather's.

    In 1957, a Repatriation Act appeared allowing all who were citizens of Poland prior to the war to return to their country. Needless to say, my father was the first to apply. As always, the children had been kept in the dark until the last possible moment, but when we saw family friends and neighbors dropping in to bid on some of our furniture, we needed to know what was happening. My sister, upon hearing that we were leaving Mother Russia, reported the "treason" to school authorities, accused all the family adults of being spies, and declared that she would be staying behind. She was subsequently placated by assurances that we were going to Poland on a mission to promote the cause of communism there. As for myself, I had a close friend named Lina, whose father had disappreared into the Siberian camps years earlier and who gave my "political" education an early start. Besides, much as I was heartbroken to be leaving my birthplace, knowing when not to speak was also a skill I had mastered at a young age.

    During the second week of May, my parents loaded up some belongings into our ZIM, a black stretch limo normally seen only carting around high state officials, and headed for Vilnius, Lithuania. A few days later, a family friend loaded my gradmother and the two of us onto a train headed for the same destination. Having arrived there, we found the limo up on a freight train platform along with many huge crates, several of them containing a full set of x-ray equipment intended for my mother to set up a private medical practice in Poland. The following day, May 20,1957, we crossed the border into Poland and my father, turning his face back towards Russia, let loose a long string of choice obscenities.

    Our first three weeks in Poland were spent at a repatriation camp, where we slept sixty to a room and enjoyed a meal of milk soup with hoodies served for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But there was a meadow behind the camp, with cows roaming and early poppies in bloom, so true to my explorer streak, I found the experience tolerable. This time, I was punished only for stepping in cow dung and messing up my only pair of shoes. During this time, my parents rented a summer place in Tushin Las, a suburb of Lodz (Poland's second largest city), and as soon as we had been "processed" out of the camp, moved my grandmother and us into it. They then busied themselves with finding us a place to live in the city.

    There were no rentals and you had to purchase an apartment to live in, so they felt extremely lucky to find a place occupied by a family about to emigrate to Australia. Their departure naturally took longer than expected, and for the first seven months in that apartment, the five of us shared the living room and the two bedrooms with the four of them. My father sold the limo for an obscene price of 350,000 zlotys, which sustained us during the next 21 months. My mother set up a practice. My sister and I were enrolled in school and, for the first time in our lives, separated. My school was primary, but she went off to the Polish version of a junior high school. Since I was obsessivelly self-reliant, the separation would have bothered me less if not for the following fact. If there was anyone the Poles hated more than the Jews, it was the Russians. Being the one and only Rusian Jew in a school of 785 Polish adolescents made me the ideal target and was indeed a skin-thickening experience. Just as an example, the last class period each day was catechism. My grandmother promptly sent a note to the teacher that I had music lessons during that time and needed to be excused early, a great idea which didn't work out at all. My classmates blocked the door and I was forced to stay. The lesson began and ended with prayer. If I prayed, I was taunted for defiling their religion. If I didn't, I was taunted with "What's the matter? Our prayers aren't good enough for you?" It was a lose / lose all the way around.

    The following winter, I broke my leg skating at a posh resort in the Carpatian Mountains. I was taken by a horse-drawn sleigh to the only hospital in the region, operated, as was customary, by a local convent. It was Christmas Eve, of all days, and I don't need to tell you the terror that filled me when the Sisters came around with their chants that evening and handed me a cross to kiss. Anyway, returning to school in January with a hip-high cast around my right leg provided my classmates with a windfall opportunity for further amusement. Nothing could be more fun than pushing me over on the icy street and in the icy schoolyard. Incidentally, I conspired to improve my pathetic situation by securing not one, but two native boyfriends, Janush and Andrzei, who offered me their gallant protection at least some of the time. Being a "liberated woman" was truly an inconvenient credo, and sometimes still is.

    During all this time, my parents were working on getting us out of Poland. There was an uncle-by-marriage in Australia who had been married to my father's older sister and survived the war. He started the paperwork necessary to get us to Australia. At the same time, Uncle Aaron had started the paperwork to get us to New York. Our destination was to be determined by whichever visas came through first. Soon my mother's office was closed up and the x-ray equipment was sold off to provide the huge sum of bribe money needed to speed our documents along, which usually just meant getting them out of the bottom of the "IN* tray and into the top. As usual, none of these goings-on were shared with us children, but by then, we had grown pretty sophisticated at reading between the lines. Suffice it to say that everyone was so absorbed in the emigration tasks that one evening at the dinner table my father said, "Could I please have my passport?" instead of "Could I please have my fork?"

    In July of 1958, our departure from Poland appeared imminent and my parents sold our apartment to a couple recently returned from their brief emigration to Israel, which they hated. They had two young sons, one of whom had commented that Israel would be a nice place if you could live inside a refrigerator. Since our documents, innoculations, and such other stuff would require many more trips to Warsaw to finalize, and the process took another eight months, we ended up sharing the apartment with yet another family of four. Our privacy in the apartment at 16 Pruchnika Street lasted a brief three and a half months.

    Shortly before our departure from Lodz, my parents set about converting all of our remaining capital into wearable merchandise. The Polish government did not permit the removal of local currency from the country, and travelers were allowed to convert money in the total amount of $5 US per person. On the other hand, you were allowed to leave with whatever you could put on your back, so furs and silks were purchased. For those who met us on arrival in New York, it was a shock to see the "poor relatives from Russia" walk off the plane with my grandmother blanketed in silver persian lamb and my mother trying not to trip over her ankle-length mink. With monies yet to be spent, my mother pleaded with Valerie and me to let her pierce our ears so that she could stick some diamonds into them. We, once again, deemed the idea cheesy and bourgeois and refused. On a humorous note, less than a year after our arrival here, my sister and I both declared that we wanted our ears pieced, and my mother suggested that she pierce our hearts instead.

    On February 10,1959, we departed for Warsaw and moved into the five-star Hotel Bristol to tend to some last minute details which included the confirmation of our flight on Pan Am (prop plane) nine days later; Warsaw International - Copenhagen - Boston - Idlewild International, New York. (Incidentally, in August of 1993 Jeff and I visited Hotel Bristol in Warsaw and it looked to me a lot less "five-star" than it had thirty-four years prior.) On the morning of February 19th, the day of our scheduled departure, it began to snow....

    Part II: WHEN IN ROME….

    Early the following day, we finally boarded our flight. This being the first airplane trip for me, and possibly for all of us, we were all amazingly calm. We had already been through enough, and no one seemed the least worried. As for myself, I was overcome with the sense of adventure this offered. Several hours later, we deplaned in Copenhagen. (Valerie seems to recall it was London, so I won't be held to this one.) Although we were confined to the waiting area, the very idea of being "in Copenhagen!" (or London) was incredibly exciting. I don't remember how long we were there, but I do remember Valerie being dispatched to get some information or other. Valerie was the family linguist. Way back in Riga, it had been deemed that she had the gift for languages, so she was sent off twice a week to a sweet old man named Nathan Semyonovich, a retired English teacher. I, on the other hand, was appointed the family musician, so I was handed over initially to a wonderful private teacher, Lyubov Samoilovna, and then sent off to the State Conservatory of Music, where an excruciatingly humorless woman named Ludmila Something-or-Other tormented me twice weekly. This was followed by a daily two-hour practice session at the living room piano, to which I was delivered by my grandmother with her thumb and forefinger firmly grasping my left ear. Actually, I loved playing; I just didn't like being told what to do. The living room piano was, incidentally, rented by my grandfather. One late August day when I was five, we returned from our "dacha," and there it was. I remember Sam telling my grandmother in Yiddish, "It's time for the kinder to learn music." When we were in Poland, I continued with music lessons and Valerie went off to "Madame Pediani," a lovely old Englishwoman married to a huge Italian named Frank. I was occasionally permitted to go with my sister and remember learning "did" and "shit," the latter being far more useful. Now, in Copenhagen / London and later in Boston, we looked to Valerie as our Sacajawea.

    The flight to Boston lasted nearly twelve hours. While everyone slept, I spent the entire time staring out the window. Those who do not find the inky sky with just a single red light flashing on the wing mesmerizing probably don't remember their first flight. It was tantalizing enough for me to make the idea of sleeping unthinkable. Shortly before five the next morning, we set down in Boston. During our two hours there, Valerie and I put the first dent in our collective capital of $25 by depositing 10 cents into the Coca-Cola machine and a nickel into the post-card machine. It wasn't realty that we wanted either, but we had never before seen a vending machine, and our elders indulged us accordingly. Finally, on the crisp, chilly, sunny morning of February 20,1957, we landed in New York.

    I shall subtitle the next few paragraphs "Discoveries," as the weeks and months to follow were just that.

    I have no recollection of the tumult that must have errupted when we got off the plane. Valerie seems to recall everyone rushing up to us with introductions, but the only memory I have of that morning is the cold and the myriad of cars everywhere. That was my first glimpse at a parking lot, but at the time, I couldn't understand what incredible events were happening here to cause all these cars being in the same place. Discovery: everyone here has cars and they keep them in a place called a parking lot.

    Staring out the car windows on the way to Flushing, Valerie kept looking for the skyscrapers, the only image of New York we had seen in posters, but all we saw were red brick building after red brick building, six-story, box-like and plain. Discovery: the ugly architectureof the forty's and fifty's intended for mass habitation. On the ancient continent of Europe, no two buildings look alike. All along the way, Valerie thought there must have been an accident just ahead of us; so many cars all backed up to each other. Discovery: the traffic jam.

    Arriving at Tanta Mucie's red brick, box-like building, we took the elevator to, I believe, the third floor. Discovery: self-operated elevator. The only elevators I had seen prior to that were in the Warsaw hotel. They had beveled-glass cages and folding brass doors, and you had to tell the old guy in a red uniform with brass buttons which floor you wanted. Needless to say, Valerie and I traveled back and forth between our room and the lobby many times with no particular purpose. The next shock confronting us upon entering the apartment was the table all set to greet the new arrivals, with a pitcher of orange juice in the starring role. "Boy, they must be rich!" gasped Valerie in Polish.

    All day and evening, people kept pouring in. It seemed to us that our reception committee at the airport was huge, but as it turned out, that was the morning of Jay Scheiner's bris, so quite a few Tesslers had been dispatched elsewhere while we were landing. I made a feeble attempt to connect the people with the faces in the photograph, but by evening, the sleepless night and the time difference had caught up to me, and the rest is a blurrrrr.... Discovery: even I could get too tired to be sustained by excitement alone. I had never before in my life actually wanted to sleep; not unless I was sick.

    Initially, we were housed at Aunt Mucie's. I am not sure where she and Uncle Joe slept, but to us, the one-bedroom apartment seemed really spacious, especially after Lodz. In any event, Aunt Mucie was there in the kitchen first thing every morning, cooking up a storm, making sure we did not perish from hunger. Discovery: the milk-vending machine in the basement (a quarter per quart), which Valerie and I abused mercilessry. Milk in Europe at that time was not yet pasteurized, so we always got it boiled, lukewarm, and with that disgusting membrane floating on top. Not only did Valerie and I find the ice-cold, membrane-free milk delicious and downed it by the quart, but the process of inserting a quarter into the basement machine and having a carton of milk drop down was really fun, to say nothing of using the self-service elevator to get there and back. As always, in the spirit of fair play acquired as "young pioneers," we kept meticulous track of whose turn it was to insert the quarter and to push the elevetor button. The other gastronomic discoveries made in Aunt Mucie's tiny kitchen were bread toasted by pushing down a lever on a shiny chrome appliance, tuna fish salad with mayonnaise, ambrosia to us, and whipped butter in a red and white container, which could be spread on toast with the help of a serrated knife (also never seen by us before), leaving fine, parallel-line designs. That alone made it worth eating every chance we got.

    A few weeks later, we were enrolled in Daniel Carter Beard Junior High School # 189 on Sanford Avenue. It was a good distance away from Aunt Mucie's, but chosen in anticipation of our move into the Bowne Street apartment, just four blocks from the school. Eddie Kaplan was appointed as our chauffeur. The very first morning of school started off with a torrential downpour and Eddie showed up with proper rain gear for us. Discovery: clear rubber ankle-high over-the-shoe boots with rubber bands and buttons on the side and plastic rain bonnets that unfolded from a tiny package and tied under the chin. A most embarrassing get-up, but as always, we had no say in those matters. To me personally, the first day of school was like being lead to my own funeral. A year and a half prior, I experienced my first day in a Polish school, and although I was not actively expecting anything similar, still... At least the three and a half months preceding our entry into the Polish schools were spent in Tushin Las playing with local kids, and we had a decent mastery of the language by the time the summer ended. Here, however, my language skills consisted of "shit," mastered under the able tutelage of Madame Pediani and the words "up" and "down," mastered while riding the elevator to fetch milk. The school experience on Sanford Avenue was filled with shock after schock, way beyond just mere discoveries. The girls were all dressed up in fancy clothes. Everyone ran around the hallways shouting. One girl had her hair done up in pincurls and had a boy holding a mirror for her while she removed them and combed out her hair. Our former schooling had been extremely regimented, sort of a junior bootcamp, and all this was astounding.

    I was ushered to a seventh-grade classroom and seated right in front. A dimple-chinned girl named Maryanne O'Connor, who fit that name perfectly, asked me my name. That, luckily, was the only question I was prepared for and able to answer. She walked up to the blackboard and chalked down "G-A-L-E" and I nodded; it looked O.K to me. Years later, when I took my citizenship exam at a Brooklyn courthouse, I applied to have my name changed to that officially. Soon, the teacher arrived and introduced me to the class as "a new girl from Russia," met almost immediately with a shout from the back. "Ah, a Commie!" It was Poland all over again, I thought. I spent the next couple of hours aching for recess so that I could find my sister and safety.

    School was torture. Imagine sitting at your desk six hours a day having no idea what was being said. I used to pass the time by copying everything from the blackboard mirror-style, from right to left, but that wasn't nearly entertaining enough to last the day. The three o'clock dismissal bell quickly became my favorite sound. (Twenty-five years later, I was directing an ESL program at a local Yeshiva, where children of recent Russian immigrants were becoming more and more numerous. My routine was to remove each child individually or with a well-matched classmate to my office and tutor them in English for one classroom hour at a time. One day, I was told of a new first-grader who showed up just that morning. Entering his classroom, I was shown to an absolutely angelic-looking six-year old, Boris, with blond curls and immensely round blue eyes. I explained to him in Russian who I was and what we were about to do. He listened silently and nodded, but when I took his hand to lead him out of the classroom, he began to sob. After managing to calm him down, I learned the following: he didn't want to leave the classroom for fear of missing the bus home. It was only ten o'clock in the morning and the home- bound bus wouldn't arrive until five, but he was already waiting. That having been said, he resumed crying, and I am not at all ashamed to say that I cried along with him.)

    The only two pleasant things at school to qualify as discoveries: during lunch, I would seek out a black girl named Andrea and sit right across the table from her so that I could study her face. I had never before seen a black person and found her fascinating. Also, although grandma packed lunch for us every day, about once a week she would give me a dime to get a chocolate ice-cream pop from the vending machine in the back of the school cafeteria. Those two things were my only consolations. By the time school ended in June, I understood just about all the English spoken around me, memorized the names of the thirteen original colonies (in alphabetical order, to help pass the time), and discovered that what everyone was learning was nonsense. I had by that time had algebra, geometry, a year of physics and a year of chemistry under my belt, so the more English I understood, the more bored I became. Having reported this to my grandmother, history proceeded to repeat itself. With me as her translator, grandma marched into the office of Tom Caetan, the Vice Principal, and demanded that I be moved up. He proved to be a really kind-hearted man (later, he used to visit us at home for a taste of my grandmother's cookies), and he agreed that in the fall, I should go to ninth grade.

    If some are beginning to wonder by now why all this copious detail is being provided about our early days in the United States, they must understand some basics about life that no one ever bothers to think about. From the time we are born, we begin to build our lives in tiny, predetermined steps. One small experience follows another: we learn to sit up, crawl, walk, speak, play with toys. We make friends, go to school, learn about the world around us, become acculturated to our surroundings. All this happens naturally, and our lives move on and build upon themselves almost imperceptibly. Milestones are few and far between. So it was with Valerie and me until one day we were rudely yanked out of our native soil and unceremoniously transplanted into the unknown. No one ever doubted that this was a good thing, and I am sure that most of the upheaval which my parents and grandmother had undergone was largely for our sakes, Valerie and me. Nonetheless, re-learning one's life is a nightmare. It is akin to a person awakening from a long coma or one suffereing amnesia. Your life loses its assumed continuity. Suddenly, all that is familiar and routine to everyone around you is a mystery to you, you need to find your way through the labyrinth of daily existence, the rules for which are known to all others, but are unwritten and must be guessed at cautiously. This is why the most trivial of details assume great importance and are remembered for decades to come.

    Several summers ago, a neighbor of mine, my age or a couple of years older, invited me to join her and two of her friends in a summer bowling team. I consented, and the four of us had great fun. The three of them had known each other for years, but I had long ago mastered the art of "fitting right in," and felt completely comfortable and relaxed among them. One evening, Barbara, my neighbor, mentioned that she and Nancy, another woman on the team, had sat next to each other in kindergarten. I was overwhelmed by this seemingly trivial information and couldn't stop thinking about it for days. I believe I was just jealous of the sense of continuity this must provide.

    But back to the story.

    As for the adults, everyone fell into their own routine. My mother took on a couple of baby-sitting jobs procured for her by the "Tantas" under the banner of her medical training and then went to school to study English under the generosity of Uncle Aaron, who paid her tuition. At the risk of getting ahead of myself, I can't resist a small aside here. I currently teach at the English Language Institute, a division of Queens College Linguistics Department, where I have been for a long, long time. Part of our curriculum is intensive academic training for non-native English speakers planning to enter American universities. At the end of each semester, every student who meets the attendance and achievement requirements is issued a certificate. After my mother died in 1993, Valeric, while going through boxes of her documents and sundry sentimentalia, discovered one of those very certificates with my mother's name on it, dated August 1959. It is now proudly hanging in the glass display case in our department office.

    My father went to work at Madam Alexander's Doll Factory, in the Bronx, I believe. The factory was recently featured in a documentary on Great American Institutions, but at that time, was a lot less glamorous. Two evenings a week, he attended English classes at a local public school. His teacher, Mr. Winnick, lived down the block from us and having learned of "the teen-aged daughers," promptly hired us a baby-sitters for his obnoxious daughter Joyce, age nine, for a whopping remuniration of fifty cents an hour, seventy-five after midnight. To balance things out, I shall grant my father his own small aside.

    One evening, on the way home from school, he stopped at the candy store on our corner and purchased a container of strawberry ice-cream for us. My sister and were touched and greatly surprised, as this was not really like him. The truth is, we hated strawberry ice-cream and still do, but we didn't want to hurt his feelings, so we raved about how delicious it was. As no good deed goes unpunished, we were treated to strawberry ice-cream every week thereafter until the English classes mercifully ended.

    My grandmother got down to her homemaking duties and resumed her position as family boss, albeit somewhat handicapped by the unfamiliar language. She would trudge down on her tired old feet to Smilen Brothers Supermarket, a good few blocks away, and set about finding a Jewish-looking person to direct her in Yiddish to her intended purchases. If no such person could be found, she shopped by the pictures on the package. One day, she decided to bake some cookies, a specialty of hers that we missed a lot since coming here. Failing to find her Yiddish supermarket guide, she walked up and down the aisle where baking products were on display. She was looking for baking soda, but struck out and came home disappointed. After two more attempts, she wasfinallyable to engage one of her customary pathfinders to zero in on her target. Upon coming home from school, I found her furious and muttering. She wanted to know what idiot put an arm holding a hammer on the front of the yellow box and the cow on the back and what any of that had to do with baking soda.

    The Tesslers treated us most generously, not only lavishing us with attention (the apartment was always full of people), but also material goods. A complete bedroom set, formerly Tanta Bella's, I believe, appeared in our only bedroom. There was a sofa in the living room, on which my grandmother slept, and a roll-away bed on which my sister and I took turns while the other slept on a thick quilt on the living floor. A 16" Zenith was delivered by Murray, if I am not mistaken, and became the epicenter of our universe. Everyone had chipped into the $60 fund to purchase that. Pots, pans, and dishes made their way into the kitchen, as well as a speckled white formica table for us to use them on. Tanta Bella would bring lovely meat (not seen much of in Poland) for which she still shlepped on the Q-44 bus to the Bronx. Also, a collection had been made to buy other furniture, but my grandmother blew the whole $400 sum on a piano, which today still stands in Valerie's apartment. Finding it in our living room one schoolday afternoon, I instinctively placed my hand over my left ear, but being dragged to practice was to be replaced by another torture, "Play something for everybody," which I dared not refuse simply because the word "no" had not yet found its way into my vocabulary.

    The sisters took my grandmother to Alexander's in the Bronx, to which they were passionately loyal, and returned her to us renovated by "American" styles, although the flowered crepe-de-chine dress still occupied a place of honor in the closet. Soon a package came from New Jersey with girls' clothing passed down to Valerie and me by Lenny's relatives, and in our desire to look like real Americans, we occasionally sniped at each other in the mornings, competing for who-gets-to-wear-what-today. I believe that since we were four and five respectively and Valerie bopped me over the head with a sand-box shovel upon my declaring that it was my turn to use it, that was the first time we argued over anything. Not counting, of course, the occasional new book, a scarce commodity in Russia, and the two of us fighting over who gets to read it first.

    Among the other niceties extended to us children was being taken to Radio City by Marvin and a trip to the UN Headquarters with Joe, followed by lunch at a Chinese restaurant somewhere on the second floor of a Manhattan building. During that lunch, it was discovered that I actually could speak English. Prior to that, I hadn't uttered a word. Aaron and Laura adopted us for a couple of weeks in the summer and took us up to their summer place in Spring Valley. The most memorable parts of that visit were the long ride in Aaron's car, a relic even for that day, and the Dugan's Bakery truck that showed up every afternoon of our stay, from which Laura permitted us each to purchase a cupcake with a thick slab of chocolate icing which you could peel right off and save for later. Also during the summer break, Aunt Emma invited us to spend a week in the Bronx getting to know the two cousins, Lucille and Toby, who were the closest to us in age. My most significant memories of that stay are Toby's friends, girls with lipstick the color of bubble gum and boys in black leather jackets, one of whom had a car and insisted on driving all of us to City Island Beach. The black leather and the car ride scared me half to death. The other scary moment during our visit to Aunt Emma's was when Lucille showed up with a large box containing something hot and smelly. When she opened the box, we saw something round, pink, and slimy. She told us this was a pizza, an all-American favorite, but to me it looked and smelled like vomit, and I refused to partake until years later, when I discovered that it was really delicious. We were also taken to the top of The Empire State Building, again by Joe, I think. If I am improperly identifying our benefactors, I hope I will be forgiven for that, as well as leaving out other acts of kindness which I am sure were numerous, but I can't recall just now.

    On the third Saturday of every month, all of us got together in the basement rec room of Tanta Chana's building. The December meeting was a Hannukah celebration (of which we had, of course never heard) and among other gifts, we received a stack of silver dollars from Uncle Louie, an enormous thrill to us who had never laid our hands on any money that was actually ours to keep. Some time later, when my mother was working as in intern at Coney Island Hospital for the incredible sum of $15 a week (cigarette money and carfare to her), and making ends meet was a real challenge, she "borrowed" our silver dollars and went off to the supermarket with them.

    The first formal occasion was Marlene's wedding to Dave, which my sister and I attended clad in identical but differently colored dresses purchased for us at (you guessed it!) Alexander's. It was very exciting; we had never seen a wedding before and it was really fairy-tale to us. Soon after, we wore the same dresses to Rita and Mel's wedding, at which Lucille was the maid of honor and walked down the aisle in the reddest dress I have ever seen. It was then that I learned "American Beauty" was a variety of the rose.

    Part III: Realities

    (we're still waiting for the rest of Gale's story…)

  • LILY: as told by George Goldsman

    George Goldsman (born September 19,1924 of parents Lilly and Paul Goldsman) met Gloria Segal (born March 4, 1925 of Anne and Edward Segal) in 1946 at a dance.

    George had grown up in the Bronx, he had an older sister Mildred and was a typical boy - not too interested in school but loved sports. In his day there were no playgrounds so he spent his free time playing ball in the streets. He also worked at various jobs, at one time working for his parents in a small candy store. He graduated from Evander Childs High School in 1941 and was soon drafted into the army and sent to Europe to fight for the Allied troops during WWII.

    Unfortunately George was the only member of the family to see action in the war. It was a harrowing experience for a young man barely out of school. Not only did he see some of the unspeakable violent acts of war, he experienced prejudice from some of the men in his group. Never one to back down, George held his own and was not intimidated. He fought for his dignity but he was dignified in the manner in which he carried himself, more about that later.

    Gloria grew up in upper Manhattan, Washington Heights, and was the older sister to Bill. She was a sweet girl who was given lessons in ballet and piano. Her father was an optometrist and her mother a housewife. Gloria was often given the responsibility of watching her brother, her mother was very demanding and stern but her father was supportive and nurturing. Gloria graduated from high school but did not want to continue her education since she wanted to go directly to work to earn some money.

    These 2 wonderful people were married on May 9, 1948. From the beginning, life was a struggle. They lived with George's parents and Gloria soon learned to love them like her own. Lilly taught Gloria about cooking, cleaning and sewing but more important, about being a mench, a good person, to do the right things and to act the appropriate way. After a few years, they found a small apartment for themselves and then eventually moved to an apartment in Forest Hills, Queens.

    It was here that they established the roots for their family. First came Robert Ira on November 12, 1950. During his early years the young child was stricken with childhood diseases and even once came close to death. Lilly was able to guide the young couple through this illness, as well as others. Robert was a good-natured child and was respectful and bright. Despite his infirmity, he was athletic and enjoyed playing sports as well as watching them with his father.

    When Robert was 3 1/2 years old, brother Howard Steven arrived. Although Gloria was hoping for a girl, she was elated as Howard was healthy. From the beginning he was a little difficult. It seemed that he cried for no reason and it was almost impossible to settle him down. Robert enjoyed having a buddy and helped to guide Howard through the trials of childhood including climbing out of the crib, playing with cars and other toys and of course when he was a little older, fighting with Howard.

    Life was simple in those days. George and Gloria worked very hard - George as an iron worker and Gloria as a housewife and later a secretary. The family occasionally went to the movies, the zoo, the park and later to the World's Fair. Each Labor Day weekend, we would go into Manhattan to a Broadway show and dinner at Rosoff’s afterward. The boys went to day camp each summer and were active in sports.

    George and Gloria were very proud of their boys. They were very bright and varied in their dedication to scholastics. Robert was more studious and patient, while Howard would let his mind wander and was impatient. However, both did well in school and proceeded to achieve Masters Degrees.

    Life was not always a smooth ride with the Goldsmans. There were several times that George was laid off from his job and it was difficult to make ends meet. Gloria worked for many years as a secretary but together they did not make a lot of money. Overall it was a happy family. What they lacked in money they made up for in love. The boys were taught and shown to be honest, trustworthy individuals; the parents saw to that.

    Gloria and George were honest hardworking people. George was polite, respectful and never uttered a profane word. Gloria was sweet and kind, always considerate of others. They impressed their values upon the boys so that they would become the best of both the parents.

    On October 30, 1977 Robert married Wendy Joy Kravetz. They had met at a dance about a year before. They lived in Brooklyn for a short time but then set up their roots by purchasing a home in Bayside, Queens and a few years later in Hollis Hills, Queens. They were blessed with a double dose of joy on May 24, 1981 when a pregnant Wendy early and unexpectedly delivered twin boys Paul and Ronald. While Robert had prepared for the birth of one child, he was asked to leave the delivery room during the double header.

    Life for the Goldsman Four was not easy for the instant family but they worked hard. They also had occasional assistance from great grandma Lilly who enjoyed helping out. The boys always enjoyed sports and performed well in their school activities. They overcame some minor adversities and are hearty souls. When they were older they worked in summer day camp and at various part time jobs. They have become well rounded respectful young men both with college degrees.

    Howard married Ilene Sharon Bloch on December 3, 1978. They had met at a dance about 9 months before. They lived in apartments in Forest Hills and Rego Park, Queens and eventually bought a house in Bayside, Queens. They were blessed with a beautiful daughter Melissa. on June 22,1980, 3 1/2 weeks later than expected; she has turned out to be the only girl out of 8 great grandchildren for Lilly. Two years later on April 24, Kenneth was born and then 3 years after that Bryan arrived.

    Life with the Goldsman Five was busy and fun. Trips to the playground were plentiful and the camping out nights in front of the TV were a blast. All three are completely different personalities but they share a goodness in values and integrity. They are all following their own paths in the journey of life and will certainly be successful as they continue to work toward their goals.

    11/27/2003

  • LILY: as told by Mildred (Goldsman) Rothstein

    This story cannot be told in isolation. The story of one branch of the Tessler family is inseparable from the others. Lilly and Anna Tessler came to the U.S. with their father in 1913. They went to New Haven, but there was no work for them, so they settled in New York City, to be seamstresses. Lilly and Anna lived in a Harlem rooming house their father found for them. Lilly remembered going to her first day on the job, not knowing the language and armed only with instructions for how to get there and with her home address. Her father was to pick her up after work. However, when she arrived, she was told there was no work for her that day. Rather than wait, she walked from the Lower East Side to Harlem, pausing to get directions by showing police officers her paper with the address.

    She eventually acclimated to her new country, and her new occupation. In fact, she became an union organizer and became a fighter for her fellow workers, a dedication she took well into her retirement. Lilly met Paul Goldsman, eight years older, who was from Lilly's home town of Zhitomer; in fact, she had seen him walking to his talmudic studies. Now, in New York, they met and married. Paul's good friend Label married Anna.

    Anna and Label gave birth to Norma, and six months later, Paul and Lilly gave birth to Mildred. Very soon after, the rest of the family arrived from Zhitomer. And what a group it was - Lilly's mother, Baba, five of her sisters and her young brother. Mildred remembers a wonderfully strong, interconnected female-dominated family. The heart of Tessler life was Baba's home. All of Mildred's newly-arrived aunts were unmarried, and they doted on Mildred and Norma.

    If Baba's home was the center of the family, the dining room table was the center of her home. Mildred remembers the Tessler sisters sitting and gossiping. At first, Norma and Mildred enjoyed trying on their aunts' clothing and parading to great admiration. After a while, they realized the gossip was more interesting than the clothes. And these were not quiet conversations. Each sister sought to outshout the other - it was not clear how much listening was actually going on. Years later, Uncle Joe taped one of the conversations, and the playback was hilarious.

    Mildred remembers fondly how well she was treated by her aunts, and how much she loved them all. In addition to the continuous positive reinforcement, Mildred remembers asking for, and getting, money from the aunts, dolled, up for their weekend dates. Emma took her for her first permanent and her first Chinese meal. And it was not only the sisters - Aaron brought her, Norma and the other cousins to ball games. Eight years older than Mildred, Aaron showed her a much different slice of life than was available around the Tessler table (Madison Square Garden during the crazy, and gambling-happy days of college basketball, for instance). He also sneaked Mildred and Norma into bars with his friends but never let them drink until they were of age. They had such fun.

    George Goldsman was born when Mildred was four. Mildred and George were latch-key children from a young age, as Lilly had to work to support the family during the Depression.

    Starting as a pre-teen, Mildred had to take care of George, which was not easy, as he did not shy away from fights and was a fanatic and fearless ballplayer. George had great instincts about people and always expressed his opinion about Mildred's boyfriends - he was usually right.

    Life was filled with family love and affection, but financially challenging, for the Goldsmans. Paul, a skilled jeweler, often found himself out of work in the 1930's, and Lilly's seamstress income had to carry the family. In high school, Mildred had two blouses and one skirt to wear. She, Norma, and the other working-class girls at Hunter High School could easily be distinguished from their well-off Manhattan classmates in their dress, but she and the others held their own scholastically, driven by the fierce desire of their parents to have the education that circumstances denied them. (Hunter was then, and is now, one of New York's most elite high schools, accepting only outstanding students.)

    During this time, the Tessler sisters married and, not surprisingly, established households within walking distance of each other. Sundays were spent at Baba's, and with the increased size of the family, the din must have been detectable some distance away. There was a certain competitiveness to the conversation. It's hard to tell whose children were in fact the best, smartest, etc, since they all turned out pretty well. Every sister's home was open to the other sisters and cousins, who were always running in and out. The sisters' husbands began to bond as well, the strongest bond being pinochle, which helped them tune out the tumult.

    There were many trials and tribulations, medical as well as financial. And whenever one of the sisters was seriously ill, another came to the rescue, nurturing the sick sister back to health and taking care of the children. Mildred remembers she and George giving up their room when one of her aunts needed to be nursed back to health, and sometimes the aunt's entire family moved in as well. Most of all, Mildred remembers her childhood years fondly, not so aware of what she was missing and reveling in her family.

    Mildred graduated from Hunter College and took a job in a hospital social service department. She wanted to be a lawyer, but did not see that career path as open to her, and instead got a scholarship to Columbia School of Social Work. She worked as a medical social worker all of her working life. Then came the Second World War. At 18, George was drafted, and served in Europe. Though wounded, he stayed in the European Theatre until the war's end, and was away from home for three years. He arrived home on a creaky Liberty ship, rail thin after bouts of seasickness. Lilly's cooking served to be restorative.

    In college, Mildred met Harold Rothstein at a House Plan party. She was 18 and he was graduating from college. They went out for a while, even though from different cultures (she was from the Bronx and he was from Brooklyn), but several years passed before they would hook up again. That time it was for keeps. They decided to get married and wanted to wait for George to return for the wedding. But with the war in the Pacific dragging on and George's return not in sight, they married in June 1945, a picture a George by their side at the wedding. Mildred's wedding was the only grandchild's wedding Baba lived to see. The memory of her walking alone down the aisle, her head held high - she was a small woman but carried herself like a queen - was a sight to behold.

    Mildred and Harold moved to Manhattan, a further break with tradition. Mildred became the first of the sisters' children in this country to have an offspring, Alan, who eventually came (he was three weeks late). Alan's arrival was just in time, because George was about to marry Gloria. Roberta arrived three years later, with a pronated foot. As would figure, Roberta not only overcame her birth deformity but became a dancer and choreographer, with her own dance company. George and Gloria produced Robert and Howard, or Bob and Howie, who grew up in fabulous Forest Hills and still live in Queens.

    Paul had his first heart attack in 1953, and was unable to work thereafter. He spent his time being an exceptionally devoted father and grandfather. Alan and Roberta particularly remember the many summers they spent with Paul and Lilly in bungalow colonies, with Lilly and Harold coming up weekends after work and Paul and Mildred taking care of them. Paul taught Alan to tell time at age 3 (it was not clear where Alan was going at 3 years old such that he needed to know what time it was). Alan, Bob and Howie grew up voracious sports fans, and could not play ball enough. This was fed by their fathers, who were not disinterested rooters themselves. Roberta was able to resist the lure of sports, and grew up creative and dedicated to dance.

    Paul and Lilly joined the family's exodus to Flushing. The Tesslers seemed to take over the Linden Hill complex, with most of them again living within walking distance of each other. The Cross Bronx Expressway, though devastating much of the Bronx, brought the Rothsteins closer to the Tesslers. The Family Circle meetings in the recreation room of Anna's and Norma's building became the family mecca, as the Tessler sisters' grandchildren grew up and eventually had their own families.

    Bob became a dedicated teacher, married Wendy, and begat twins Ronnie and Paul, who themselves just graduated from college. Wendy has worked for many years at Queensborough Community College. Ronnie is an accountant and Paul is in a Master's program in guidance. Howie has held a series of increasingly responsible management positions with the Port Authority. He married Ilene, who also teaches and tutors, and then came Melissa (now working in social work while earning her Masters), Kenny, getting ready to finish college, and Brian, who is pursuing a career as a musician.

    Roberta went to the Jane Addams College of Social Work at the University of Illinois and earned her Master's Degree. She also met her soulmate, Rob. They married and settled in Washington. Rob, who earned his Ph.D. at Northwestern, is a social policy researcher who also plays in a Brazilian jazz band. Roberta is a social worker in private practice who is the Founder and Artistic Director of Momentum Dance Theater, and teaches many classes that draw on both of her specialties. They added another boy to the family, named Harper, now 9, whose biggest thrill is to come to New York to see his cousins, and of course the rest of us. Alan became a lawyer, and is counsel to the New York City Bar Association. He married Claire, a psychiatric social worker, who Mildred says is a true treasure. They live in Northern Westchester with their children, Jeremy, a senior in high school, and Matthew and Ethan, Lilly's second set of twin great grandchildren, who are high school freshmen. The chapters of the grandchildren and great grandchildren are yet to be written.

  • MINNIE: as told by Marlene (Costin) Storm *NEW*

    On or about 1900, in the city of Zhitomir, Russia, Ukraine, lived a family called Tessler. They had many children, the third of whom was Mindel (called Mina or Minnie by her school friends). At that time, only 6% of Jewish children (mostly boys) could attend school and they had to know how to read and write before enrolling. School children had to wear uniforms. Minnie had 2 school uniforms that she rotated and washed by hand daily. She graduated the 8th grade. Minnie had 7 sisters and 1 brother who also went to school: Fania, Anna, Lilly, Mucie, Bella, Emma, Bea and Aaron. A tutor was hired to provide Hebrew lessons to the siblings but Minnie did not like the tutor because he had bad breath.

    To paint you a picture of Zhitomir at this time which was during the Russian Revolution and WW1, there were dead bodies littering the streets. My Aunt Bea saw a dead man on the street and crawled over to his body. She went through his pockets and found something unfamiliar which she brought home to her mother. They later found it was snuff, which my grandmother sold and was able to feed her family for weeks.

    Around this time there was a pogrom in Zhitomir. One day, there was a knock at the door and in came several men with rifles and asked if there were any Jewish men in the house. The girls answered no. However, the soldiers went up to the garret and there found grandpa (Toiba’s father). They dragged him downstairs, took him into the courtyard and shot him. One of the Aunts, I believe Aunt Bea, went out to the courtyard and attempted to put his brains back in his head (to no avail).

    In this terrible time, Grandma Toiba was fortunate enough to get a job with the equivalent of a Russian soup kitchen. Her pay was a few kopeks which she used to buy soap so that all her children would be kept clean. She was allowed to take home leftover food for the day which consisted of borscht and Kasha (a grain). Both of these foods were very nourishing. It was at this time that Mucie contracted Typhus and was sick for months. Luckily, no one else got sick in the family and Mucie made a full recovery. Diseases were a serious threat to the family’s well-being.

    For some reason, I know not why, my mother Minnie was sent to a wealthy Aunt and Uncle (whose names I never learned) who lived in a big city called Kharkov, also in the Ukraine. They had no children of their own but they were very rich. Here is where I believe my mother’s life started. She was about 16 years old, on the quiet side and a bit shy, and couldn’t stand the noise and carryings-on of her siblings. How lucky for her to be chosen for this adventure.

    Life in Kharkov was wonderful. She attended all the cultural events that a large city had to offer such as the ballet, concerts, operas, and other special outings. A highlight was when she got to see Nijinsky dance. They had season loge-level tickets. Each season, a seamstress came to the house and outfitted her and her Aunt with dresses, suits, and even nightgowns embellished with embroidery. It is from my mother, that my brother Joe and I were introduced to these cultural worlds. Mom also encouraged us to read Russian classics and become acquainted with Turgenev, Chekov, Tolstoy, Dostoevsky and Gogol. I read some when I was young; Joe read more of them.

    At Minnie’s Aunt and Uncle’s home, there was plenty to eat and there were gold pieces hidden in the cabinet. Although enjoying all these luxuries, Minnie missed her family. World War 1 was raging and many people died of typhus, cholera, and other diseases as well as starvation. Lice were rampant. Everyday wagonloads of dead bodies, like logs, were carried outside the city to be buried en masse.

    Meanwhile, back in Zhitomir, the word went out to Fania, the oldest sister, to travel to Kharkov, and bring Minnie back because at long last the family was leaving Russia. Minnie had lived with her aunt and uncle for 4 glorious years. These were the best years of her life and she recalled them with great fondness. In the United States, money earned by my grandfather Abraham, Aunt Anna, and Aunt Lilly, came at last for passage to America. The family could’ve gone to the United State earlier had it not been for WW1 and the Russian Revolution around 1914. As a result, the family’s trip was delayed for 7+ years.

    I don’t know how Fania got to Kharkov in that time, as travel was always dangerous. Mom described to me the trip with Fania from Kharkov to Zhitomir. Minnie and Fania boarded a troop train filled with wounded, dying, diseased, bloody soldiers. A civilian caught on a troop train could mean arrest or even execution. On board stepped Minnie in her summer pongee (her finest linen) suit with red shoes and long brown, wavy hair, at a time when lice were so prominent. Mom said to Fania that if the authorities caught them, they could be shot. And Fania very brazenly stated, “if they see us, they will think we have permission to be on the train.” My mother said that Fania was always gutsy and very much ahead of her time, and feared nothing.

    When mom and Fania arrived in Zhitomir, they found the family had left. Since mom wasn’t there on time, they took a friend of the family instead of her. Meanwhile, Fania told my mom she had to leave the city. Perhaps she was returning to a job as a nurse in a contagious ward somewhere. Mom hitched a ride in a wagon going to the first stop of the family’s journey. When she arrived at this stop, she went looking for her mother and her younger siblings. Low and behold, Aunt Bea was out on the street looking for her. When they spotted each other there was much laughter and tears.

    The family had to cross a body of water (Dnieper River) and to be caught could mean possible death, as guards patrolled the border area and were instructed to shoot escapees. It was a risky evening to travel as there was a full moon and the family could easily be seen. A young man, who was the first person on the boat, told them that he had already been caught twice and warned that if there was a next time, he would be shot. He saw my mother, took her hand, and said “you will bring me luck.” Everyone in the family got across safely.

    I don’t know where the journey progressed for a while until they reached Belgium, where Minnie met a very nice young man. He was Belgian, Jewish, rich and manufactured silk stockings. He fell in love with mom and asked her to marry him. She told him she couldn’t marry him because she would be too far away from her family and would miss them too much.

    Finally, the day came for boarding the ship (called the Lapland) leaving for America. At some point, Grandma Toiba was placed in another part of the ship because of varicose veins. All the children were seasick except for Minnie, who never got seasick and got to see her mother every day to check on her. Grandma Toiba was very scared they would send her back to Russia. In those days, if you had varicose veins, it might be a reason to send you back to the old country. But with so many children capable of taking care of her, Grandma had nothing to worry about.

    Minnie caught the attention of the captain of the ship, and he invited her to have dinner at his table which she accepted. I don’t know if the other siblings were invited to the table (frankly I doubt it). In August 1921, the ship landed at Ellis Island. Mother was impressed as they passed the Statue of Liberty. On the other hand, she was ready to go back to Europe. Why? She was never faced with humidity and hated it. The area in Russia where the family lived had no humidity. I could never understand that but I asked other Russians about humidity and all answered that they never experienced it either.

    Minnie and her family lived in the East Bronx shortly after arriving to New York. I believe that Minnie met Louis Costin at Sunday family gatherings when most of the sisters were still single. He happened to also be from Zhitomir despite the fact that their paths never crossed until reaching America. He was a printer by trade and proficient in Russian, Yiddish and English (eventually working for the New York Times). Louie aka “the Mayor” was known for his impeccable looking hair and suit. Minnie and Louie got married and produced 2 children. My brother Joe was born in 1927 and I was born in 1933.

    In the 1950’s there was a lot going on regarding communism in pop culture. Senator McCarthy was a name heard every day. Many writers and actors were blacklisted and lost their jobs because they were accused of being communist. Mom was not a citizen yet at this time even though all her sisters obtained their citizenships. We told her that if she didn’t become an American citizen she could be shipped back to the old homestead. The “Cold War” had heated up, and mom got scared and finally started the process of becoming an American citizen. My father Louis, who was a WW1 US Solider (Dough Boy) was automatically given citizenship. He was the only brother-in-law of the family to serve in the War. His family was still in Zhitomir, however he was forbidden to travel and visit them as a US soldier. He never saw them again except for his older brother who settled in Philadelphia. I would rehearse the questions mom needed to know for her citizenship test. When she memorized everything, she took the test and passed the first time and was congratulated by the judge.

    In the mid 1950’s, my family joined the exodus to Flushing, Queens and moved into a brand, new Co-op apartment building with an elevator (a huge step up). At this time, the managing director of the Metropolitan Opera, Sol Hurok, arranged cultural exchanges between the US and Russia. Joe hastily purchased 4 tickets, 10th row orchestra to see the Moiseyev Dance Company. My parents were in their glory. The last performance of the afternoon was “Russian Sailor Dance” from The Red Poppy. After the thunderous applause, the dancers did an encore of this same number. The audience didn’t want to see the ensemble leave the stage. It was pure magic, I remember it to this day.

    By the 1960’s, I was married to David Storm, who I met at a dance. Mom and Dad rejoiced upon the arrival of their grandchild Shereen in 1963, as well as Joe’s children Amanda in 1968 and Carl in 1973 (Carl passed away at age 2 of Familial Dysautonomia), who he had with his wife Carol (Lindenauer). Joe met his wife on Fire Island. Both Dave and Joe served in the army before they met their spouses.

    The photo below was taken on the ship my family took to America. In that photo, and until this day, I see my mother as stylish, sophisticated and beautiful. I inherited her hazel eyes.

    photo from ship
    photo from ship

    Minnie and Louie:

    {{Minnie Louie}}

    Louie in his army uniform (seated) and his discharge papers:

    {{Louie in army uniform Louie discharge papers}}

    Mom and Dad’s marriage certificate:

    marriage certificate
    marriage certificate

    Marlene (10) and Joe (15 ½):

    marriage certificate
    marriage certificate
  • MUCIE: as told by Marty Refkin

    My name is Martin Refkin, and I have been president of the Tessler Family Circle for some twenty-odd years. There is so much to say that putting it down on paper is a daunting task, but I will try to talk about my particular family, the Refkins, as part of the greater whole of the Tessler family.

    First, my mother. She was the fifth of nine children born to my grandmother Tauba Tessler and my grandfather Avram Tessler. (There were one or two children who died at very early stages whose names I don’t know.) They lived in Zhitomir, which was at the time a city in Russia, and now is in the Ukraine. My grandparents’ children were Fania, Anna, Minnie, Lily, my mother Mucia (Mary; born 1902), Emma, Bella, Beatrice, and finally a boy, Aaron. My grandfather left Russia before World War I for the United States, hoping to make enough money to bring over the family He took Anna and Lily with him to America .

    As I have been told, he opened a dry goods store in New Haven, Connecticut and the two girls worked in the garment trades. Success was not easy to come by, but the girls were happy – Anna married Laibel Kaplan and Lily married Paul Goldsman. The sons-in-law pooled their savings with Avram in order to bring the family to America. By a miracle, the family in Russia had survived the war, the revolution, and the pogroms. During the revolution, my grandmother, who had come from a well-to-do family, went to work as a cook for the Red Cross, which was providing relief for the local people. Somehow, there was enough food for everyone in the family.

    In that interval of time my mother developed typhus and was in a coma for a few months. She survived through the loving care of her mother and sisters and also because the doctor gave her the medicine that he had saved for his own family.

    When I was a teenager, my mother would regale my sister Sylvia and me with the story of how her sisters, her brother, their mother and she escaped from the Ukraine across the Dniester River and into Roumania. The story is too long to tell here, but she never tired of telling it and I had it memorized after hearing it a few times. Suffice to say that after a few months in Roumania they took the train to Antwerp, boarded a ship called the Lapland, and arrived in New York (Ellis Island ) in August of 1921 The only child to remain in Russia was Fania, the oldest.

    The five girls all went out to work in New York, and they were able to support my grandmother and their little brother. Family complications were such that my grandfather and grandmother never lived together here. He died in 1925, so I never knew him.

    My mother was a real go-getter – a good worker and a very strong personality. My father came into her life when a mutual friend told him about five lovely, young, single girls living in the Bronx, and he came to get acquainted. Before long, they were married on January 9, 1926. I was born on November 29, 1926.

    Before I continue, let me talk about my father He was born in Belz (Balti) in 1900 in what was then called Bessarabia (now called Moldova ). He had an older sister named Bassie and three younger brothers that I know of – Pierre , Labish, and Rene. (I think there were nine in the family originally.) His mother Dvora married his father Ichiel when she was 13 or 14 and he was in his mid-20s. They had a farm outside of town and my father used to tell how he couldn’t stand school (probably a cheder) and loved to ride horses.

    They survived World War I and as part of the treaty ending the war, Bessarabia was awarded to Roumania. The government there called up the young men in town to serve in the Roumanian army, in which service was a nightmare for Jews. One night, all the young men left town for the Black Sea to escape to the four corners of the globe. My father got money for the trip from his grandmother, who knew where Isaac Metz, her husband and the town miser, kept his money.

    My father went to Nice, France , where his uncle Serge and his wife lived. Jobs were hard to get. After a few months, he took a cattle boat from Marseilles and, to the best of my recollection, disembarked in Providence. He took a train to Buffalo, where he had relatives, the Cantors. They were furriers and very well-to-do. They trained him as a cutter in the fur trade. He was good, fast, and loved the work. He was earning $16 a week, but left when they couldn’t give him a $2 raise. He came to New York, where his friend Joe Kaufman took him up to a shop where he started working at $65 a week. Then he met my mother, and now the two stories are joined.

    My father always wanted to be in business for himself 1926 was the sesquicentennial year in Philadelphia , so my father opened a store there on South 5th Street in anticipation of good business. My mother worked as his finisher. When it came time for me to be born, my mother returned to New York to be with her mother. I was born at Dr. Leff’s Hospital on Madison Avenue and 111th Street which has long since closed. I was the first child born to the six new immigrant Tesslers who came in 1921.

    My father’s business failed and we came back to New York, where my father got a job as a furrier. Even during the Depression he was rarely out of work for any long period of time. On June 11, 1931 my sister Sylvia was born. At six months of age she was exposed to infantile paralysis and lost the use of her right arm. Through groundbreaking surgery, Dr. Leo Mayer was able to restore her arm to limited use. My sister and I were very close. I always felt protective towards her and she looked up to me as her big brother.

    We lived in various places in the Bronx (Crotona Park North, East 175th Street, Mapes Avenue.) No matter where my parents lived in the Bronx , they were never more than a few blocks from my mother’s sisters, their husbands, their families, and my grandmother – Baba, as she was affectionately called. I loved her. For many years we lived in the same building on the same floor, so we had a special bond. Her apple cake was always my favorite.

    Every Sunday the sisters would meet at my Aunt Anna’s to have tea and to talk. My cousins and I would generally tag along and roughhouse it outside the view of our parents. The husbands had relatively little family here and they became a remarkably close group of friends. Their weekend pinochle games were a tradition that lasted all their lives.

    I went to school at P.S. 44, P.S. 92, and once again P.S. 44 in the Bronx. I was a good student and I enjoyed school. My parents were loving people and encouraged me to do well. When I was 11 years old I suffered an accident in which my right leg was badly broken when I was hit by a bicycle. I was extremely lucky to have a fine doctor set the leg using a new procedure he had invented. I walked on crutches for about a year, but I recovered completely.

    In spite of hard times during the Depression years, my parents always managed to take Sylvia and me out of the city to some place where we could enjoy the summer months. At various times we were in the Catskills, Coney Island, Manhattan Beach, and especially Rockaway. We loved it, especially in Rockaway During the day we would go to the beach and in the evening we would stroll the boardwalk where the cool ocean breezes were heavenly. My cousins would come from the city, in endless rotation, to spend two or so weeks with us. There was always a place for some nephew or niece to come, even though all we lacked was sardine oil to fit in everyone. There was always room at Tanta Mucie’s.

    Before long my 13th birthday approached and even though we were not religious, my parents wanted me to have a bar mitzvah. My father sent money to his parents for their passage to come to New York. (He sent them money regularly and my mother never complained.) In September 1939, two months before my bar mitzvah, World War II broke out and they couldn’t come. (They both died the same day in January 1941 in Kazakhstan.) The bar mitzvah went on as scheduled. I had studied in cheder for over two years with Rabbi Slutzky, who thought I had great promise. My father borrowed $600 from Joe Kaufman and we had the affair at Elsmere Hall, off the Grand Concourse near Mt. Eden Avenue . Since my father’s parents had been prominent people in Belz, he felt that he had to have me introduced at my bar mitzvah to all of his Belzer True Friends (their landsleit organization). It was a big success and I survived it somehow.

    The War Years

    My teenage years were dominated by the looming advent of World War II. During the 1930's I was fascinated by the political and military developments in Europe, Asia , and the U.S. I read the newspapers avidly in order to keep up with current events (and sports.) I was very well-informed on both history and geography. The wars between Japan and China, Italy and Ethiopia, the Spanish Civil War, the takeover of Austria and Czechoslovakia: all were a steady diet of hate and bloodshed. Yet it seemed very far away from us. In America the focus was on the Depression, the programs of the New Deal, and the battles of FDR and the conservatives. There was always hope that somehow things would work out.

    Hitler invaded Poland on September 1, 1939, a date I cannot forget. My mother, sister, and I were returning that day from a summer vacation in the Catskills. Going down the Wurtsboro hill on Route 17, the brakes on our car started to smoke and fail. My mother grabbed both of us and covered our faces to protect us. If not for a small rise in the road, which allowed the driver to stop the car, we would all have been killed in that final steep plunge down the hill.

    With the onset of the war, I started the first of many scrapbooks of pictures of the war. When Hitler conquered France and the British evacuated Dunkerque, it seemed like Hitler would conquer the world. It was dawning on us that we would have to prepare ourselves for the worst; the Atlantic Ocean was no longer a barrier.

    I graduated P.S. 44 in June 1940 and entered DeWitt Clinton High School – 7500 boys – quite an experience. I was in the honor school and for the first time, I had real academic competition. On December 7, 1941 , the unforgettable happened. As I was listening to the Giants-Dodgers football game, a news flash reported the bombing of Pearl Harbor .

    The next day, in Mr. Prinz’s chemistry class, we heard President Roosevelt’s speech to Congress asking for a declaration of war on Japan. The effect on all of us in class was electrifying and stunning, even though it was expected. Such excitement! Here we were, 15 years old, but assuming we would never face the horrors of war.

    I graduated from DeWitt Clinton in June 1943 and registered at City College. I went for one term to Baruch and then went to the uptown campus on Convent Avenue. Academically, the school was first-rate and the competition fierce. Even though I had been a good student, being matched up against some of these people could foster a giant-sized inferiority complex. In retrospect, my choice to study engineering was ill-suited for me.

    In December of 1943, under the leadership of Paul and Lily, the Tessler Family Circle was formed. The idea behind it was to make some kind of formal unit of the family and send packages to the boys in the army – Aaron, Eddie, and George. With time, the Circle’s activities expanded to include many charitable causes. Its binding force has kept us together for all these many years.

    The news seemed to get even worse. The Japanese were taking over the Pacific and California was wide open to attack. The Germans were deep into Russia and approaching Stalingrad .

    Before long I was 17-1/2 years old, the war was even more devastating, and I realized that my time to serve was coming. I had always enjoyed reading about ships and planes and I had absolutely no desire to become a target in the infantry. I applied for the Merchant Marine Academy at Fort Schuyler, did well on their tests, but was rejected. (I was sure that anti-Semitism had much to do with it.) I enlisted in the Air Force in September 1944, just three weeks before they closed enlistments. Being good in math and having 20-20 eyesight made it possible. Two weeks later Fort Schuyler accepted me. (It gave me much satisfaction to tell them that I was not joining them.)

    The Air Force had more than enough men and even though other 18-year olds were being called up, I didn’t get my papers to go until April 4, 1945. I remember being in Penn Station getting ready to go to Fort Dix in New Jersey. I was excited and nervous. I had never been away from home and here I was going off to war. My parents and sister kept a cool front, but I know that my father was very proud to have a son who would fight against Hitler.

    After a week at Fort Dix, we were sent for basic training on a troop train to Shepard Field, Texas, near Wichita Falls. We were in the train station in St. Louis, where some boys on the platform were hawking newspapers with the headlines, “FDR Dead.” How could “God” die? We were shattered. But the train didn’t know any better – like Old Man River, it just kept rolling along.

    I spent six weeks in Texas. It was hot and the food was miserable. I never had so many grapefruits in my life. Even though basic training was exhausting, we were young and we toughened up quickly. We would watch the 35-year olds (who were being drafted) crawling their way back to camp from bivouac, and, with the arrogance of youth, we would humiliate them with our laughter at their condition.

    I didn’t have much time or energy to miss home, but I wrote almost every day, even if it was only a few words. The men (so-called) in my barracks were the nuttiest group of people I had ever met, up to that time. I remember writing home and telling my family that 99% of them were utterly crazy – and these were hand-picked air cadets.

    During my stay in Texas, the war with Germany ended and we celebrated. Now all we had to do was finish off Japan – but how long would that take? The Air Force had so many men waiting and Randolph Air Force base was the only training field still functioning. I was given a choice to go to Chanute Field, Illinois or to Truax Field in Madison, Wisconsin to study radio in the meantime. My girlfriend was going to school at the University of Wisconsin so that was a no-brainer.

    Before leaving for Wisconsin, I received a brief furlough. I went to Rockaway and saw my family there. It was very emotional for all of us. It was also the last time I ever saw my grandmother. She was staying with my parents that summer. I remember her emptying my duffle bag and I remember how pleased and impressed she was to see how neatly I had packed everything. She had a big smile on her face.

    Wisconsin was paradise. Milk on the tables, good food, and of course, my girlfriend I met many of her friends and I discovered the meaning of the word “dilettante.” It was a great summer and I didn’t pay too much attention to radio school. My mother and Sylvia came to visit me in Madison in August. During that time we heard over the radio that a new, powerful bomb had been dropped on Hiroshima. And then it was all over – Japan surrendered. We had a wild parade in camp and gradually it sank in. Our lives were not being planned for us anymore. We were about to become free men, looking for jobs and careers and facing the responsibilities of adulthood.

    On November 2, 1945, I was discharged at the convenience of the government. I came home on the 4th to find that my grandmother had died the previous day in my bed in my parents' apartment in the Bronx. It took all the joy out of my return.

  • MUCIE: as told by Sylvia (Refkin) Scheiner

    Having grandchildren that love to hear stories about the "Olden Days" is a blessing for me. These memories are so clear that they seem to come alive when I see the interest in their eyes.

    Our six granddaughters and three grandsons love to hear about Great Grandma Mucie and her sisters.

    I tell them how each one of my Tantas made a special impression and helped mold me into the Grandma I am today.

    I was born June 1931, the year of a huge epidemic of infantile paralysis (or polio). When I was 6 months old my mother noticed that my right arm had no movement - it was paralyzed. They assumed it was a birth injury. At about that time I was sent to my Aunt Lilly while my mother recovered from gall bladder surgery. My brother Marty was sent to Tanta Anna's because this was "the plan for emergency sistering".

    Uncle Paul and Tanta Lilly always watched out for me and continued to do so as I grew older. Uncle Paul always conveniently showed up at our house to check out the young men I dated (he really liked Murray).

    My family, my Tantas were my friends. I loved being with them and hearing their stories about their childhood in Zhitomir. We cousins would get together almost every Sunday. Sometimes in Tanta Anna's house and later at our apartment on Mapes Avenue. The uncles would play pinochle in the living room and the Tantas would drink coffee (with apple cake, of course) in the kitchen.

    How well I remember Tanta Emma's potatoes latkes. Before she was married, on Saturday's she would take me out for Chinese food or a movie.

    When Tanta Bea, Uncle Jack and Irwin moved next door to us I was about 9 years old. It wasn't long before I saw Tanta Bea grow bigger and bigger. She had a baby in her belly; I was so excited and happy to have my own baby cousin living next door, my little sister Rita from that day on.

    Tanta Minnie was always there for me. Sundays, Marlene and I played games with Shirley, Marvin and Lenny. We always had birthday parties for all the cousins. We sang songs, recited poems, and ate ice cream and candy in little cute candy and nut holders.

    Norma and Mildred loved music and would practice the latest dance steps. I tried to imitate them, but failed. They were so good - most of us took piano lessons.

    Tanta Anna was a great hostess and soup maker. No one could beat her chav and borscht. She was always loving and caring we were all "her" children.

    Tanta Bella never had a little girl. I would feel special when I was with her. She carried pictures of my children in her wallet. She came in from Brooklyn to baby-sit for my children so that I could go to Manhattan for singing lessons.

    Looking back at the war years 1942-1945, I remember that Uncle Aaron Tessler was in the Army, as was Eddie Kaplan, my brother, Marty Refkin and George Goldsman, (my hero). The Tantas did not want their mother to be alone at night. I was assigned to sleep at Bobba's house Friday nights. It was a treat for me to have my Grandmother all to myself. She held a glass of fresh squeezed orange juice when I opened my eyes in the morning.

    Tanta Bea was so very important to me while I was growing up. I always needed her approval, as she needed my mother’s. Living next door - she was my mother's "little sister" to advise and share. Bea would knit beautiful sweaters for everyone in the family. They were a thing of beauty and perfection. It gave her so much pleasure to donate her "art" to her nieces and nephews and their children and grandchildren.

    When Bobba became ill just before the end of the war, my mother insisted she stay with us. Pneumonia was the cause of her death, penicillin could have saved her. She died in my brother's bed. She was 72 years old, my age now. It didn't seem old to me then. What a life she had - what a family she created!

    I look back on that life, that world in which I lived - one with my Mother, Father, brother and all of the richness of having extended family always within reach. How beautiful it was and how precious it remains in my memory. So here I am - a Tessler girl. A Refkin daughter. A Scheiner wife. Mother. Grandmother. A product of my Bobba, Mucie and Joe. In my soul lies cherished memories - which I will continue to pass onto my children and the children of my children - who all know they have Tessler in their blood.